HEALTHY RISK


healthy risk
RISK IS NOT A DIRTY WORD!

as long as I’m realistic

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Risk of any kind usually entails some type of action (T.E.A). When average-functioning people are deciding what to do – ahead of time or if they only have a few seconds to consider – they use a reasonable thought process
Thinking RISK thru includes:
• considering your aspirations – hopes, dreams AND level of wishing welldesire
• the short or long-term goal
• having the skill or knowledge to at least try
• knowing your expectations (to succeed or fail)
• weighing pros & cons of the situation
• considering possible consequences, both for yourself, & what’s socially acceptable
• “how important is it”! (whether to push or not)

😲 However, many ACoAs’ thinking about Risk – is either faulty or missing. Anxiety pushes some to act impulsively (R-addicted), & terror holds others back from even trying (R-averse).
❖ Which type you are now – & how you reacted to constant chaos & abuse as a kid – is based on your native personality

• ACoAs are trained to be perfectionist – only Actions counted in the family – but we could never be good enough, since nothing satisfied them.
EXP: Even raising my hand in class felt like too much of a risk. What if I don’t know the answer? What if I’m made fun of?

We’re bound tofall down fall down or become paralyzed from setting the bar for every accomplishment so high we can’t possible reach it (such as trying to make everyone like us!),
Sadly, to the outside world it can look like we don’t set the bar high enough, labeled lazy, stupid or crazy. We are NOT. It’s our terror (E) & CDs that stop us, or cause our mistakes

SCIENCE: re. taking actions, we can generally be divided into — ‘sitters’, who observe & then act or
— ‘rovers
’ – who act more randomly.
In our culture it’s “Just do it” (Action) vs. “Look before you leap” (Thinking).
We’re born more as one than the other, but when mixed with damage it gives us the -averse or -addict type. Each Personality Type has it’s advantages & disadvantages, & neither should look down their noses at the other!  (MORE… w/ examples.)

HEALTHY RISK
Appropriate risk-taking, like all other aspects of mental health – is rooted in balance. What are you specifically trying to achieve in each situation?
Finding a balance between considering all possible outcomes (T) vs. just taking a leap of faith (A) requires knowing ourselves & also how the real world works.
a. IT ISplanning
• moving forward in any aspect of your life. Do something!
• NOT about perfectionism (a form of self-hate)
• usually not physically dangerous, AND not as emotionally dangerous as your WIC or PP think it’ll be
b. ARE
• evaluated for realistic advantages & disadvantages
• mostly small ones (sending a text, talking to a stranger at an ‘event’, asking for help)
• occasionally bigger ones (moving to a different state, changing careers, getting a divorce…)

c. EVALUATE
• which negative extreme is your False Self ‘norm‘, what would it be like to swing to the opposite unhealthy side, & what would be middle ground
decide what changes you can handle & what’s currently too much – based on self-knowledge about your emotional capacity

• who can help you over a hump (of fear): ask a safe friend to sit with you, go with you, let you be at their place… while you try a new, scary action
• think through the consequences (outcome) of your actions, not using self-hate, co-dependence or fear of abandonment (FoA) as a guide
get help
• consider what the result might be of not taking any action – to you or others
• try out something small & see what happens. It may turn our OK or great. If it doesn’t, figure out what the problem is & try something else.

One of the benefits AND joys of healthy risk-taking is finding out that POSITIVE outcomes are possible, when guided by our ‘UNIT rather than by the WIC or PP. Use Book-Ending with your Inner Child to find out what’s possible & what’s not
MOST IMP: No matter the outcome – catch & stop any form of S-H.
ONLY Acceptance, Acceptance, Acceptance

NEXT:  MIND-READING vs Intuition – #1

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