SITEs: • Power of Vulnerability”, Brene Brown – a TED Talk
• “...Why Feeling Bad is Actually Good”
REVIEW all posts: “What about Es // the Body & Es // ACoAs & Es // Repressing Es”
QUOTE: “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” ~ Sigmund Freud
1. Emotional INTELLIGENCE (E.I., also called E.Q.) refers to our ability to understand & use emotional information to guide our thinking & behavior.
• The popular field of Positive Psychology is sometimes used to justify pushing away ‘unfriendly’ emotions. This suits many people who don’t want deal with them.
▶︎ However “no matter how “dark”, Es are natural expressions of being human. They all have a message that will ultimately lead to greater clarity, if acknowledged & contemplated….. (From :”Why Feeling Bad is Good“)
This includes USING:
• conflict as an opportunity to grow closer to others
• humor & play to relieve stress
• nonverbal communication effectively thru body language
(IMAGE from children’s movie 2015)
▫︎ Empathy : understand emotional perspective/ experiences of others, especially when different from ours
▫︎ Handling relationships : use info about Self & others to respond appropriately in social situations by developing healthy interpersonal skill
▫︎ Managing : act appropriately about any Es that occur in a situation
▫︎ Motivation : use self-control to channel Es toward a goal
▫︎ Self-awareness : recognize when & what emotions occur
▷ Researchers have developed tests to measure E.I.
• People with high E.I. have greater mental health, show greater job performance, & usually work well in cooperative situations, being good at motivating & managing others
• People with low E.I. have low(er) self-esteem, often misinterpret emotional signals, have trouble in relationships, & are not as motivated to cooperate or perform well at work
Although E.I. probably has an inherited component, many psychologists believe that people can be guided into making better use of the E.I. they were born with but still under/ un-developed.
KEEP IN MIND that WE:
• can experience Emotions but not act on them at all
• can have our Es & find the right place to ‘get them out’
• can change how we feel emotionally (E) by coming to an aha! moment, or by mentally (T) understanding what’s going on with us (A)
• will notice Es shifting from pain to discomfort – then pleasure – when hearing a kind word or being with any accepting, comforting person
2. Emotional BALANCE – Since Emotion is mental energy, we can learn to identify & experience our energy level in the present moment, to see if we’re operating at a surplus or deficit. It’s not a stable state, but can slide around throughout the day.
Levels are from least to best :
f. Depletion – feeling tired & stressed most or all of the time, with depression, anger & anxiety
e. Break-even – just getting by, with a few highs, but mostly lows, & sometimes really down. Often under stress, with some breaks
d. Moderate emotional health (e.h.) – barely staying ahead of problems, & often falling a little behind. There is some energy for working to build your strengths & reduce drains
c. Fair e.h. – There’s a lot going for you – with healthy beliefs & action patterns. Still some energy drains to be worked on
b. Good e.h. – close to “the top of your game.” You add energy to the lives of others, & participation in any project is an asset. You greatly benefit too when helping others by sharing knowledge & skills
a. Excellent e.h. – a fortunate & blessed position in life. Energy flows freely from within & all around you. There is great freedom – to choose how you use your abundant energy, as well as responsibility to give back to the world.
TAPE: Nurturing Your Inner Child.
🔅 “Constructing Artificial Emotions – A Design (thought) Experiment” – online games to bring up suppressed Es
• “Emotions Analytics – a new field of E. communications” identifying Es via vocal intonations (iTune app)
🔅 How to Affect Emotions With Music
• Psychological info re music & Es
• “The Power Connection Process” for actors