ACoAs – HUMILITY (Part 2)

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THE MORE SELF-ESTEEM
the more humility!

PREVIOUS: Arrogance vs HUMILITY (2a)

SITES: ‘’HUMILITY – the most beautiful word in the English Language’’

INTELLECTUAL HUMILITY (extensive)

QUOTEs :  “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” ~ Aristotle
• “Confidence without Humility is arrogance. Humility without confidence is self-deprecation” Anon.

HUMILITY MARKERS re. ONESELF
THEY:
• know their inner worth, not depending on out-performing others, or having to always be ’the first, the best, the most…. ’
• don’t have to frantically chase some intangible or unrealistic degree of importance, success, fame or power

• have an honest, accurate assessment of their actual talents, their limits & areas that need improving. Can admit mistakes, & ask for forgiveness
• have a clear perspective of present-day reality, respecting their place in whatever context they’re in
• can handle frustrating situations with a genuine sense of inner ‘serenity’, since they respond, rather than react, to life’s challenges.
ARE
• able to control their temper
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• able to value but not spoil themselves (give in to every whim of the WIC)
• courteous, respectful, not pretentious, not boastful or gloating about their accomplishments
ARE
• good for the sake of being good, admitting they’re as human as everyone else
• happy to work behind the scenes when required or appropriate, knowing their work is as important as any done in the spotlight
• not attracted to superficial or unhealthy behavior
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• OK with being an ordinary / average person (even when ‘special’, gifted, ‘important’), not needing to be part of some ‘in crowd’ to feel acceptable
• teachable – assuming there’s always more to learn about & from all PPT
• willing to yield the right to be right. Do not demand their rights

MARKERS re. OTHERS
ARE

• able & willing to forgive others, letting go of grudges & bitterness
• comfortable with others’ success. H prevents embarrassing themselves in competitive situations
• compassionate & look for the best in others (realistically). Give others the benefit of the doubt
• motivated to help people, aware that others have needs too
THEY
 • ask Qs & love dialogue (not assume they know), & use conversation to explore new worlds
• ALSO put energy & effort into listening
• don’t gossip, especially about faults they see in others
• don’t pre-judge others’ behavior – knowing that everyone has their own
reasons for doing things (that are annoying), even if they don’t know or never find out what those are
THEY
• know they need others, so allow themselves to be open & vulnerable rather than closed & ‘distant’
• respect those in authority, & pray for them to have wisdom
• speak simply, not trying to manipulate or trip others up
• show honest interest in others, by asking about their lives & accomplishments
• treat each person as someone of value, regardless of position in society, profession, age or economic status

Social Activism: One form H is in the area of reform, such as in thhelp otherse 2013 workshop by Melanie Marie Tervalon “Cultural Humility: Working in Partnership with Families & Communities”.
Included topics were: Reversing health disparities in the US / Using tools of cultural competence & cultural humility at work

In Business: Humility is studied as a multi-dimensional trait, which includes awareness, self-understanding, openness & perspective ability. People with these qualities are valued because they tend to be more generous, selfless & altruistic

• Jim Collins, in “Built To Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies” (1994), says humility is a key ingredient at the highest level of executive ability. “Humility + Will = Level 5 leaders, who are a study in duality – modest and willful, shy and fearless, patient yet express fierce resolve.” (MORE….)

humble leadersConfident leaders succeed, but not at the expense of others. They have broader spheres of influence, attract better talent, inspire more confidence, loyalty & respect. Truly H people are quietly self-assured, giving them more determination & commitment

Humble LEADER come from a position of strength, & are more persuasive. They HAVE the:
• courage to set aside personal gain to benefit others
• character to respond charitably when attacked
• candor to be honest, & ability to change course if necessary (MORE….)

SITEs: 3 Reasons to Be Humble: People, Agility, and Growth”, re. entrepreneurs
Humility: The Foundation Value of Innovation Leadership”

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