ACoAs – HUMILITY (Part 2)

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the more humility!


SITES: ‘’HUMILITY – the most beautiful word in the English Language’’

Intellectual Humility (extensive)

BOOK: So, I’m not Perfect! – A Psychology of Humility ~ Robert J. Fury (not religious)

QUOTEs :  “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit” ~ Aristotle
• “Confidence without Humility is arrogance. Humility without confidence is self-deprecation” Anon.

• know your inner worth, not dependent on out-performing others, nor having to always be ’the first, the best, the most…. ’
• don’t have to frantically chase some intangible or unrealistic degree of importance, success, fame or power
• do have a clear perspective of present-day reality, respecting your place in whatever context you’re in
• have an honest, accurate assessment of your actual talents, your limits & areas that need improving
• can admit mistakes, & ask for forgiveness when in error
• can handle frustrating situations with a genuine sense of inner ‘serenity’, since your respond, rather than react, to life’s challenges.
• able to control your temper
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• able to value but not spoil yourself (give in to every whim of the WIC)
• courteous, respectful, not pretentious, not boastful nor gloating about accomplishments
• good for the sake of being good, admitting you’re as human as everyone else
• happy to work behind the scenes when required or appropriate, knowing your work is as important as any done in the spotlight
• not attracted to superficial or unhealthy behavior
• OK with being an ordinary / average person (even if ‘special’, gifted, ‘important’), not needing to be part of some in-crowd to feel acceptable
• teachable – assuming there’s always more to learn about & from all PPT
• willing to give up your right to be right. Do not demand your rights


• able & willing to forgive others, letting go of grudges & bitterness
• comfortable with others’ success. H prevents embarrassing yourself in competitive situations
• compassionate & look for the best in others (realistically). Give others the benefit of the doubt
• motivated to help people, aware that others have needs too
 • ask Qs & love dialogue (not assume you know everything), & use conversation to explore new worlds
• ALSO put energy & effort into listening
• don’t gossip, especially about faults you see in others
• don’t pre-judge others’ behavior, knowing that everyone has their own reasons for doing things which you may find annoying, even if you don’t know or never find out what those are
• know you need others, so allow yourself to be open & vulnerable rather than closed & ‘distant’
• respect those in authority, & pray for them to have wisdom
• speak simply, not trying to manipulate or trip others up
• show honest interest in others by asking about their lives & accomplishments
• treat each person as someone of value, regardless of their position in society, profession, age or economic status

a. Social Activism: One form of H regards reform, such as in thhelp otherse 2013 workshop by Melanie Marie Tervalon’s  “Cultural Humility: Working in Partnership with Families & Communities”.
Included topics were: Reversing health disparities in the US / Using tools of cultural competence & cultural humility at work

b. In Business: Humility is studied as a multi-dimensional trait, which includes awareness, self-understanding, openness & perspective ability. People with these qualities are valued because they tend to be more generous, selfless & altruistic

• Jim Collins, in “Built To Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies” (1994), says humility is a key ingredient at the highest level of executive ability. “Humility + Will = Level 5 leaders, who are a study in duality – modest and willful, shy and fearless, patient yet express fierce resolve.” (MORE….)

humble leadersc. Confident leaders succeed, but not at the expense of others. They have a broader sphere of influence, attract better talent, inspire more confidence, loyalty & respect. Truly H people are quietly self-assured, giving them more determination & commitment

Humble LEADERs come from a position of strength, & are more persuasive – WITH the:
• courage to set aside personal gain to benefit others
• character to respond charitably when attacked
• candor to be honest, & ability to change course if necessary

SITEs: 3 Reasons to Be Humble: People, Agility, and Growth”, re. entrepreneurs
Humility: The Foundation Value of Innovation Leadership”

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