Enneagram Type 6 – Flaws in us ALL


type 6

 

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IMPORTANT
Review explanation for each category in the INTRO post 
Associated Type is inside the ( )

 

 

Type 6 COWARDICE because of CDs (#6)
• re. others: believe you can’t really trust or count on others (except a few you’ve tried & tested)
• re. yourself: believe you can’t fundamentally trust or count on yourself (even though experience shows you can, in most cases)
• re. authority: think that authority figures can’t be trusted or, at least must be carefully & continuously watched

Type 6 FLATTERY (#2)
• Mentally idealize people you want to think of as all “good”
• Think & say “nice” comments that aren’t completely true, to placate others or keep the peace
• Think it’s not OK to say what you really think to someone – if you’re anticipating a negative reaction

Type 6 LAZINESS / Indolence (#9)
You seem to be very energized (in motion), but a person can be & still be indolent (not paying attention), which is most obvious in 6s
• Think only about the things that scare you
• Believe you can’t let yourself relax into ‘fun’ (truer for self-preserving & social sub-type 6s than one-to-one 6s)
• Can’t or don’t want to take the time to separate your projections from your motivations, hopes & fears

Type 6 MOODINESS (melancholy & resulting separation) (#4)
• Believe you’re alone because no one can truly be counted on
• Project that others will always leave you at some point
• Blame yourself when things don’t go well, but also blame others, which ends up hurting your relationships, leaving you worried about loneliness

Type 6 PLANNING – as compulsion (#7)relaxing
How to anticipate problems before they occur: • often automatically calculate what might be an obstacles for getting what you think is both possible, desirable, plausible or dangerous

Type 6 RESENTMENT (#1)
• Wonder why others are treating you badly (supposedly)
• Angry about how someone in authority could treat you badly after being consistently dutiful & loyal
• Project bad things will happen to you

Type 6 STINGINESS (#5)
• with trust: Believe you have to be really careful about who you trust, thinking you have to continuously “test” the integrity of others
• with self-confidence: Think that if you constantly question yourself, somehow the best/ safest answer will emerge
• with relaxing: Believe that if you relax too much or too long (or at all), something will inevitably go wrong

Type 6 VANITY (#3)
• Believe you’re the best problem solver
• Think that no one but you is reliable, & others are not trustworthy
• See yourself as the one who’s most able & willing to stand up for the group, if others don’t seem to be aware or courageous enough to do so

Type 6 VENGEANCE (#8)
What sets you off is thinking someone has :
• put pressure on you
• been deceptive & is therefore, dangerous
• appeared insincere & therefore, can’t be trusted
• acted abusively, & needs to be stopped

REACTION: think about how to keep yourself & others safe from this ‘bad’ person, which may include disarming them
GROWTH: Ask “Am I accurately separating projections & insights?”

ALSO
Type 6 DISTORTED LENS
Tainted color (grey) – vision is clouded by a grayish overlay
Lesson: Not everything is as cloudy, confused, or complex as we imagine when we’re anxious

Type 6 HANGING ON
Hang on to:
• always having to be the person who raises difficult issues
• to the assumption that everyone & everything in your environment is harmful to you & others
• not being able to trust others, especially anyone in position of strong influence or authority 


Why
: to maintain your ‘sense of self as a person who’ understands the risks & uncertainty of being in the world, & can overcome this with your mind
Let go of: the belief that true authority only ‘lives’ outside yourself

Type 6 get OFF-BALANCE by:
• authority figure acting unpredictably or rashly, that could harm you people or ideas/ causes that matter to you
• seemingly high-risk situations that take you by surprise
• any outside pressure to do something when you’re not preparedhard work

Type 6 MAYA (delusion)
That if you focus & work very intensely on an issue or problem, that effort will definitely get the issue solved or resolved. This is not always the case.

Type 6 WORRY
“Why do I worry all the time? What should I do here? What dreadful thing might befall me? Why do I feel not fully part of things? Why do I hold onto my concerns for so long? Why do people have so many hidden agendas”

NEXT: All flaws – Type 7

2 thoughts on “Enneagram Type 6 – Flaws in us ALL

  1. I think there is a lot of truth in these posts. Thank-you for the time and effort you put into them.

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