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NLP “Anchoring” to overcome Commitment phobia
QUOTE: “It is character that gets us out of bed, commitment that moves us to action, & discipline that enables us to follow through.” Zig Ziglar, motivational speaker & author
COMMITMENT to something / someone is one of life’s most empowering (& liberating) experiences. It’s how we achieve, how we grow, how we learn, how we love. Commitment is driven by a passion to a person or thing. If there’s a solid & compelling enough reason for WHY we want something, we CAN find a HOW to achieve that goal.
IRONY: It’s both a freedom & a binding – but only to what we want or need. It’s one of the most worthwhile ways to use personal choice – to ‘tie’ ourself to a person, place or thing (PPT) – for some period of time – that we work towards, have or love. Yes, commitment is love. It’s the freedom to invent our own life, by expressing True Self.
4. CHANGING the RE-ENACTMENT (Point #3, Parts 3a & b)
♥️ COUNTERING F of POSITIVES, embracing:
a. Self-care – BY gathering & applying the knowledge of how to do it, & the help to stay on track
b. Loved – BY learning that love is available – from yourself & from people who are already capable. Also, love is not being taken care of someone else – totally. It can come is small doses, in unsuspected ways, & by a variety of PPT
c. Power – BY understanding that each of us is given the right at birth to express yourself to the fullest, to benefit Self & so to benefit the world with your specific talents
d. Visibility – BY trying out small ways of being seen – by the right people, taking in compliments & encouragement, then expressing more & more of your True Self
e. Receiving – BY believing that you’re not supposed to be able to do everything yourself. You have a right to get help, & most people like being helpful (except our family)
f. Success – BY accepting that you have a right to accomplish your dreams, especially any related to your personal gifts. It’s very important to also surround yourself with others who are successful in their fields
g. Peacefulness – BY learning to feel the difference between the numbness of being emotionally shut down vs. the inner quiet of being anxiety-free & comfortable in your skin. This is not supposed to be all the time, just more often than not.
h. Higher Power – BY separating your understanding of God / Higher Power from the terrible, terrifying experiences with your damaged family – remembering that “God is not an alcoholic parent!”
“Success Habits” comes from Life Change 90, a program of daily activities designed to instill Success Habits that help us work toward a more fulfilled life. Once the resistance to doing them diminishes, they can be done quickly & in small steps – so it doesn’t have to take up a lot of time.
They represent an outline for committing to oneself, the first stage in committing to others in a safe way. To achieve our goals, along with passion, we need to ‘work smart’ by developing a practical plan, & finding appropriate & supportive environments to work in, as we dream – while taking adult actions.
STAY AWAKE : over-viewong every day’s actions
• Be clear what your main goal is, consciously making it a priority
• Have specific daily goals & plans, with steps to achieve each one
• Develop strategies to solve short-term issues, & long-term ones that won’t go away
• Notice : Over-all mental state + Emotions, with mood shifts
• Keep track of finances & spending habits
• Be Grateful for what you DO have (grace) , & for the bad things you DON’T have (mercy)
• Review events at the end of each day (10th Step), to see how you’ve benefited, what you’ve gained, & what you’ve learned
Healthy commitment is a form of visibility
To ACoAs, being visible means risking abandonment, failure, jealousy & rejection.
BUT when we accept all parts of ourself without harsh judgment, choose well, have good boundaries, know our rights & trust ourselves – we can go for the gold!
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