QUOTES: “The only real valuable thing is intuition….. I sometimes feel that I am right. I do not know that I am.”
~ Albert Einstein
• “Insight is not a light bulb that goes off inside our heads. It is a flickering candle that can easily be snuffed out.”
~ Malcolm Gladwell, Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking
2. INTUITION (cont.)
Sources that FEED Intuition: (cont)
• Knowing someone well (friends, lovers, parents…) & observing their recurring patterns. When we ignore this we get involved with their dysfunctional schemes, plans, drama…. and suffer for it!
• Listening carefully to language & logic patterns, we can recognize where a thought or conversation will wind up & we can be prepared – like when we say: “don’t go there!” because we know it won’t end well (CHART 🔽)
AFFIRMATIONS : “I…..
….. FEEL hopeful, inspired, confident in myself
• BELIEVE that I’m a natural winner, in the power to make MY dreams come true, in my capacity to achieve great things
• HAVE unconditional self-love, respect for self & others, good health & lots of energy
• DO trust my intuition, learn life’s lessons with ease, edit self-limiting beliefs
• DO value love, learn to rise above limitations, focus on the possible
• DO know & listen to my inner voice, walk through life with dignity & grace, easily manifesting my joy
ASK, ASK, ASK!
➼ At the same time, we can NOT possibly know what others think or feel
We’re not meant to be all-knowing, perfect, infallible! No matter how smart or experienced, there are things we simply cannot know about others – unless they tell us! – especially people we’re not deeply acquainted with. SO ask question – even when we think we know what’s going on. We may be surprised by the answers!
EXP: Barbara had handed her business card to the leader of a workshop at the break. Later that day he made a disparaging remark about the kind of people she worked with. Barbara was hurt & angry. She felt the comment was aimed at her & her profession. She thought of all the possible meanings & reasons for his put-down – & fumed!
• At the end of the event she asked to speak to him. “Why did you say that _____ are such troublemakers?” He thought for a moment, then said “Last time I did this seminar there were a whole group of them & they were constantly disruptive & argumentative. They ruined the event!”
Barbara thanked him & as she turned away, started to laugh. His original comment had never been about her at all, AND, even though she was intelligent & intuitive, she could not have possibly guessed his answer! She was glad she’d checked it out.
• It’s arrogant to think we always know exactly why someone is thinking or feeling a certain way. Stay out of their head! To do otherwise is to be boundary invasive and presumptuous. This doesn’t win friends & influence people.
It’s NOT appropriate to tell others : ✓ what’s wrong with them ✓ what they mean ✓ how they’re feeling ✓ what they should be doing ✓ how to do things ✓ when to leave a person or place….
• To be truly respectful we need to listen carefully, and ask – “What did you mean when you said ____? , Why did you do that? , What do you need / want / feel? , What would you like from me?” ….
➼ The answers may be unexpected, & we can always learn something. It will make us a better parent, friend, mate, employee… and much better liked – even by people who already love us!
REVIEW – Intuition can come from:
• years of life experience
• wide variety of reading
• emotional sensitivity
• an observant mind
• trusting that “I know what I know” – based on:
✓ a clear identity of ones own
✓ clear, strong links to the IC & our H.P.
✓ no longer obeying the Negative Introject
✓ strong Boundaries, so we don’t confuse ourselves with any another person, while still being part of the human community
NEXT: Negative Introject #1