I WANT TO BE COMFORTABLE
so I have to pay attention to who people are!
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❀ This outline is not earth shattering or even news, but it’s nice to have it all in one place. You may want to add to the list, based on your personal experiences – or maybe some variations
• It comes from the book “SAFE PEOPLE” by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend. The orientation of the book is Christian & has references to Biblical truths, which apply to all spiritual persuasions, so please don’t let it keep you from benefiting from the available info in it. “Take what you like & leave the rest”!
• The book also has excellent chapters on many of the same topics covered in this blog, under such heading as: “How we lost our safety”, “Do I have a Safety Deficit?”, “Learning how to be safe” ……
• ACoAs are so used to being around unhealthy people that we may not realize how we’re being damaged by them.
Even when we think something’s might be wrong, we don’t trust our gut or our head – so we get confused & think we’re crazy or over-reacting to what are actually toxic environments & relationships.
Once we have the right info, we can make informed choices & set boundaries with the unhealthy people we love!