Ego States – CHILD (Part 2)

when I’m in my Natural Child


SITES: Images for T.A. Ego States (very interesting) and Natural Child’ Test

CES = child ego state
AES = adult   ”     ”
PES  = parent  ”    ”
NC = Natural C.  // AC = Adapted C.

NATURAL or Free Child – in TA terms it’s the part of us that is on the surface when we’re most relaxed & ourselves – when the Inner Parent (positive or negative) is not telling us who to be or how to act

It’s expressed the way any happy child does – combining curiosity, intuition & creativity – as well as all emotions as they surface, without judgements. The NC is the state which loves.  It’s the time when we play & are fun to be with. When we have a healthy sense of play our life becomes more balanced. Without access to the Natural Child life is quite dull, limited & stilted.

• It represents our True Self, as unique & individual as our fingerprints. It’s what we were born as, our heredity, our native capacities & tendencies, but which often goes unrecognized, unexplored, unappreciated…. or deliberately suppressed! It’s largely un-selfconscious, expressing non-verbal noises such as ‘yahoo, whee’…. It enjoys life, is open, vulnerable & is seen in autonomous, *spontaneous actions.

*Spontaneous: any behavior / communication coming from a natural emotion or native tendency, without constraint. Occurring without apparent external influence, force or cause.  REQUIREMENT: a low-level of anxiety, even if only in the short-term!

• All forms of personality inventory (Myers-Briggs, MMPI, Enneagram…) are basically designed to identify the native characteristics of the NC. This is the part we want to bring forward, encourage to express itself – that part of us that will shine, if allowed!  The Child E.S. can be seen at any age.

However, it’s important to NOT idealize the NC, such as when some people call it the Golden Child, because it puts a burden on it that’s not realistic – to be perfect. Since the NC is our essence, it is by definition: human = imperfect, which is normal.

🔅 Brainstorms, is curious, creative, intuitive, has drive, with a great capacity for enjoyment, self-expression & being in the moment
🔅 Very literal, overly-truthful / blunt, insensitive to others’ feelingold hippiess, since it is naturally self-centered
🔅 It is by nature optimistic, idealistic, exuberant, joyful. Its goal is self-actualization & intimacy/ human relating

Genuine emotions, & is not afraid to let others know how it feels, & can stand up for its rights
🔅 Is natively either an Introvert or Extrovert (each person has their own degree of it on a continuum)
🔅 Can be selfish, immature or over-emotional, willful, not liking to share or take turns, out of touch with the real world or naive
🔅 It may be rebellious or co-operative, depending on circumstances & the developmental stage it’s in at the time

Likes to explore, have adventures, and sometimes be impulsive, “leaping before you look”
🔅 It may be rebellious or co-operative, depending on circumstances & the developmental stage it’s in at the time

NOTE: One reason being high or drunk is so appealing to many is that it tends child aspectsto free the Adapted Child from the Critical Parent’s influence & ‘transform’ the person by releasing them into their Natural Child

NOTE: Our Natural C. (+FC) will show up whenever a person feels emotionally & physically safe, or in the right environment to relax &/or actively play. This ego state is easier for healthy people to access because they’re generally less anxious.

They’re allowed to enjoy themselves & their Healthy Adult is available to make sure they’re safe. At its best, the NES is the goal of human relating & self-actualization: being free, uninhibited, joyful & exuberant.

For ACoAs, it is our NC that has been suppressed, ignored, almost crushed. Early on it had to go into hiding to preserve itself from overwhelming harm.

NEXT: Child ES #3

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