BOOK : “Spiritual Rhythms for the Enneagram….” by Adele Ahlberg Calhoun
ENNEAGRAM BASICS, & as ONION layers
In the “Enneagram: The Discernment of Spirits” Richard Rohr says:
“Today all human problems are interpreted psychologically, but the real solutions are spiritual. There’s a primary blindness in each of us, an addiction to Self & the protection of Self.
Until that egocentricity is set aside, we see all of life through the distorted lens of self-interest. The 9 Enna-types each have their own primary weakness – the Biblical ‘deadly sins’ that keep tripping us up.”
The Enneagram is a psychological-spiritual system, pointing back to the original sanity of our psyche, the intent of our one & only life, & describes how to recover it. Its main goal is to help us become who we were born to be – our True Self.
It’s a tool that can be incorporated into our Recovery regimen, to release old patterns of reacting, that brings forward-movement, eliminating stuckness. Daily intentional awareness of our thoughts, emotions & actions minimizes anxiety, guilt & shame, so our natural gifts can flow through us.
It illuminates new choices we can put into practice on our journey of personal development, accessing the transforming power of God for our healing. Staying awake & in touch with that Tue Self – is liberating & empowering – focusing our attention on blessing available in every-day life.
True Self (essence = The Virtues ) the non-acquired /inborn self, emerging from union with God, so it has nothing to do with performance. The truest thing about us is that we are God’s temple, a home for God.
False Self (compulsive, old nature-self = the Vices) is the psychological self made up of past & present unhealthy experiences & briefs, with family-of-origin (FOO) issues, nature (heredity), & free will.
Transformation (redemption) brings the wounded False Self to God to be healed by the same thing that wounded us – much like inoculation.
A bit of HISTORY : the Enneagram’s roots can be traced back to the desert monk Evagrius Ponticus, (AD 399) & the Franciscan monk Ramon Llull, in the 12th & 13th centuries. The Sufi schools of spiritual direction eventually adopted their work, but the system returned to the Christian west in the late 1960’s by Jesuit trained Oscar Ichazo. He later taught the system to his student Claudio Naranjo, a psychiatrist. (much MORE……)
〽️ I don’t like conflict, but I do like clarity. I’ll often choose to have hard conversations so that issues get sorted out, but I’m not trying to be argumentative
〽️ It’s harder to explaining the long list that’s always running in my head of things that need to be done – than just doing them myself
〽️ I see the highest potential in others. When I point out an ‘issue’ about yourself, it show that I love & believe in you. I’m not judging – I mean well. But I don’t understand why people don’t handle problems that are right in front of them
〽️ If you think I made a good decision about something, let me know! It helps boost my confidence. I often second-guess myself, which makes it harder to make decision.
GETTING ALONG With Type 1s
They’re about details, follow-through, order & responsibility.
For You :
🔅 Admit when you make a mistake. More importantly, take action to fix it & work on not doing it again
🔅 Follow through with your commitments & finish tasks on time
🔅 Make an effort to keep your area organized & remember details, especially about things that are important to the 1.
With Them :
🔅 Be gentle when pointing out their mistakes. Don’t avoid talking to them when needed, but remember the 1 is already hard on themself, so hearing someone else point out a problem will greatly increase their own hyper-criticalness.
🔅 Most 1s will shrug off appreciation – because they don’t think what they do is extraordinary (“False modesty”?)
EXP : It would be like thanking someone for brushing their hair. Everyone can & should, so why make a fuss?
However, 1s do want to be appreciated, so don’t just ignore their contributions.
NEXT : UNDERSTANDING THEM (2,3)