“I Who Have Nothing” by Tom Jones (#1)
💔 “I Who Have Nothing” 💔
I who have nothing, I who have no one – adore you & want you so
I’m just a no one with nothing to give you, but oh – I love you
He, he buys you diamonds, bright sparkling diamonds
But, believe me, dear, when I say That he can give you the world,
but he’ll never love you the way I love you
Must watch you go dancing by Wrapped in the arms of somebody else – when, darling, it’s I who loves you.
I love you, I love you, I love you
◆ Clearly he has deep-seated self-hate (S-H), regardless of what his actual status & ability is in life
◆ He’s comparing himself – negatively – to her. She has all the power to get the best things in life, & he is powerless
◆ Why is that? Is he an isolate, because of S-H? Is he old, physically ugly or deformed? Or have a mental illness….?
◆ He would rather pine away for something out of his reach, rather than search (& find) a woman who can love him in return! (He’s in the reverse of the Serenity Prayer)
◆ Continuing to watch her with someone else is a way to keep torturing himself – unnecessarily!
◆ That way he doesn’t have to focus on himself, maybe even get the help he needs to improve his self-esteem & find realistic options
◆ Even more to the point – he has never actually met her, only seen her at a distance, so he has no idea what she’s really like
◆ Since he’s never met her – he’s totally focused on her externals – she’s likely beautiful, & obviously dressed to the teeth
◆ There’s no way for the singer to find out what kind of person she really is inside – he might be very dissapointed
◆ He may be equating bring rich with being shallow & lavish spending with arrogance / narcissism, OR with insecurity, that the rich man is “love buying“.
From: “Money Madness: The Psychology of Saving, Spending, Loving, and Hating Money”. Goldberg, H., & Lewis, R. T. (1978)
◆ It’s not likely that she’d ever be interested in this poor, self-deprecating man
◆ She may come from a rich family & this is how she’s used to being treated …..
— Do you identify with any of them?
— Do you know anyone like one of these characters?
— Have you gathered / learned anything useful from the analysis of this song?