PREVIOUS: Alcoholism INTRO #1a

SITE: Behavioral Addiction (many articles)

HIGH FUNCTIONING alcoholic (HFA)
Denial
• trouble seeing themself as alcoholic because they’re successful , & not on Skid Row
• use alcohol as stress-relief & a reward
• have few tangible negative consequences from drinking, by sheer luck

Professional Life
• keep consistent employment, well-respected for job performance
• have a good education
, with academic accomplishments
• make artistic, social or political contributions

Personal
• externally seem to be managing life well
• maintain family &/or romantic relationships & friendships
• skilled at compartmentalizing (separate professional & drinking lives)
• usually have one or more co-dependent helpers covering for them (rescuers, enablers)

Drinking Habits 
• one alcoholic drink sets off craving, become obsessed about next drink
• obvious personality changes, compromise morals when intoxicated
• repeat unwanted drinking patterns & self-destructive behaviors

SITE: ” The Cure for High-Functioning Alcoholism”

ADDICTION CYCLE
a. Problems – external stressors & internal emotional pain causing anxiety 
b. Fantasize – about using something for relief of symptoms
c. Obsession – about how using a substance will make life better 
d. Actively using – engage in addictive activity
e. Frustration – dissatisfied that relief doesn’t last
f. Addiction  – lose control over substance use
g. Shame – feelings of remorse & guilt re. bad behaviors
h. Promises – to self (& others), resolves to stop using, but can’t
Then BACK to: a & b 

STAGES outlined
a. EXPERIMENTAL : non-addicted
• Use a substance out of curiosity, peer pressure or rite of passage. No change in behavior or emotional reaction & is limited

b. SOCIAL :  pre-addicted
• The ‘use‘ is part-of & acceptable in their social environment. They still consider the amount normal, & keep it only to those events

c. INSTRUMENTAL : early-addicted
• Substance starts being needed to cope with personal, work & social problems, as a substitute for facing & correcting them directly

d. COMPULSIVE : fully-addicted
• The substance is the person’s main preoccupation – how / where they can get more. Shame develops, so there’s a need to hide its use, & their life is negatively effected, spinning out of control.
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Characteristics of “DRY DRUNKS”
If an alcoholic stops drinking, they’re not sober, mental-health-wise. But then it’s early days. AA says: “It takes a drunk 5 years just to get their brain out of hock!” Then they can start growing up.
OR maybe – the person is a narcissist who resists self-reflection & so can’t mature emotionally, even though their life may improve in many other ways – which mainly shows up in personal relationships

ANGER
Dry addicts are as angry after, as when they were still drinking. But instead of directing it at the effects of the substance, they often aim it at whoever forced a change, coming from : a spouse threatening to leave, a boss to fire them, or a judge to jail them….  Resentment can surfaces after a few weeks into the ‘honeymoon period’ of abstinence. Unchecked, it can lead to a resumption of drinking.  “The person I was – will drink again”.

UNHAPPY
The ‘dry drunk’ may sink into depression when beginning to see their life with a little clarity. While drinking, they may have though everything was OK. But sobriety can bring an awareness of age, missed opportunities, health problems & career failures.
New expectations & demands are rarely welcomed, such as promising to be monogamous, to babysit the children, to attend church or family gatherings, to do well at work….. Pretending to be happy about these changes is waring & can’t be kept up

IMPULSIVE
Not ‘using’ doesn’t change the alcoholic’s basic impulsiveness, which usually involves doing things against their best interest. Even if the addict did want to stop drinking, it’s common for them to switch substances. Irresponsible behaviors can be promiscuity, gambling, over-eating, over-spending…..

AND unfortunately, poor judgement can be ‘encouraged’ by still hanging out with the old crowd of bad influences, OR the family’s attitude : “As long as they’re not drinking, we don’t care what they’re doing”

IMMATURE
Newly dry alcoholics often miss many opportunities provided by psychological maturity – not ready to handle a job, a healthy relationship, parenthood…
Unlike their ‘grown-up’ peers, they’re still acting like irresponsible teenagers.
They still demand immediate gratification, & when charm doesn’t get them what they want, they can become withdrawn, manipulative, passive-aggressive, complaining, attacking …..

NEXT: Alcoholism #2

PREVIOUS: DOM / INF in Combination

IMAGE:  “Overdose”,  designed & created by DMT (2017)

SITE: Brad Pitt, @ functional alcoholism 

The distinction between physical dependence & psychological addiction is  important. National Institute on Drug Abuse explains that physical dependence is not itself addiction – which is psychological & emotional.

Once the body is regularly used to a certain amount of alcohol – & then has to go without it for even a short time – withdrawal sets in. This is so painful that the alcoholic will resume drinking to avoid experiencing the distressing symptoms. The cycle continues unrestrained until some type of intervention occurs (self, legal, family….)(More….)

ADDICTION : A chronic brain disorder affecting a person’s sense of pleasure, motivation & memory. While there are psychological, biological, social & environmental factors that can play into it, a large part of the risk for addiction is genetic.

Addiction is any obsessional thinking about & the compulsive need for – drugs, alcohol, food (sugar ), sexual activity (dopamine), fear (adrenalin), romantic ‘love‘ (dopamine), dangerous sports (adrenalin)….  despite the negative consequences acting on them will cause.
It includes developing a tolerance, intense physical cravings, & withdrawal symptoms. This develops over time, starting with misuse, moving into abuse & resulting in addiction.

WHY: The more stressors we have to deal with, the more we search for solutions to alleviate suffering, to feel better. Using substances to manage uncomfortable emotions & life problems is not about which ones a person chooses, but rather it represents impaired coping mechanisms – instead of learning how to solve issues in healthy ways.

Medically, alcoholism is referred to as Alcohol Use Disorder – AUD – determined by 11 criteria in the DSM-V . In 2012, an estimated 7.2% of American adults 18 & older (about 17 mil.) had a diagnosable AUD.
Men are almost 2x more often chemical substance abuser than women (11.2 mill vs. 5.7 mill). And teens are not immune. In that same year, an estimated 855 thousand young people (ages 12 to 17) also had this disorder.

The National Institute of Alcoholism & Alcohol Abuse (NIAAA)
🚦 TWO or more of the following symptom indicate AUD
a. Moderate (“Normal”): Per day – 1 drink for women, 2 for men
b. Binging: Any drinking that brings blood-alcohol level to 0.08 – over a 2 hr. period, women = 4 drinks, & men = 5
c. Heavy Use: Binge drinking episodes on 5 or more days in the past month

LEVELS of SEVERITY for AUD
Mild: 2 -3 symptoms // Moderate: 4-5  // Severe: 6 or more
🚥 Only TWO (or more) of these symptom are needed to indicate AUD:
• Drink a larger amount or for longer than – you originally intended
• Spend an excessive amount of time drinking (many hours)
• Want to cut down or quit drinking, but so far unable to

• Developed a tolerance to alcohol, or the need to drink larger amounts to get the desired effect
• Have a craving for alcohol when not drinking, or want a drink so badly you can’t think of anything else

• Often been physically sick as a result of time drinking – & it has interfered with the ability to take care of your home & family, causing problems at work or in school
• When not drinking, have withdrawal symptoms (trouble sleeping, body tremors, nausea, sweating, or seizures….)

• Continue to drink in spite of external negative consequences (trouble with family, friends, work, the Law)
• Continue to drink in spite of internal negative results (depression, anxiety, worsening health problems, blackouts….)

• Cut back on or have stopped participating in activities you once enjoyed because of your drinking
• Found yourself in dangerous situations many times – as a direct result of drinking, (driving, swimming, in dangerous areas, unsafe sex….)

An average functioning alcoholic can be identified as someone who:
✴︎ drinks alcohol to replace eating food
✴︎ has angry or defensive reactions when someone suggests alcoholism

✴︎ can’t remember what happened while under the influence
✴︎ sets drinking limits, but can’t stick to them

✴︎ does “pre-drinking” before an evening out
✴︎ tries to hide drinking from others

✴︎ drinks in the morning, throughout the day or while alone
✴︎ jokes about the possibility of being an alcoholic (More….)

➡️ SITE: “I’d drink to just about anything. Being a functional alcoholic is no fun at all”, writes Kristen Pyszczyk

NEXT: STAGES #2a

PREVIOUS: Aux-Tert functions 

CONTRAST RESEARCH ➡️ :
Synthetic social networks were identified by assigning human Personality Types to the nodes, then adding links between nodes based on the compatibility of those Types

Probability Search (PS) & Compatibility-Degree Matching  (CDM) were used (More….)

INFERIOR reaction BLOCKED by its DOMINANT Counterpart ⬇️ :

☀︎ REVIEW
2 kinds of Perceiving:
a. Sensing  – the ability to perceive details, & go for the fullest possible experience through the 5 senses
b. iNtuition – seeing the big picture, chasing the furthest reaches of the possible & the imaginative

2 kinds of Judging:
a. Thinking – being objective & deductive, looking for rational order thru the impersonal logic of cause & effect
b. Feeling  – stepping in to the situation, being empathetic, & looking for rational order in accord with key values

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DOMINANT-INFERIOR interactions: POSITIVELY & NEGATIVELY
When a function is misused or misapplied, the person’ll have problems & setbacks.
🔸 SP = Sensate Perceiving 🔸 NP = Intuitive P
🔸 SJ = S Judging  🔸NJ -Intuitive J

Se-Ni (SP): When well-aligned, you pursue goals assertively, & are great at working around minor setbacks or environmental obstacles

WEAKNESS: You enjoy things so much you forget to stop & plan stuff out

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to overlook or misunderstand the deeper meaning & implications of events / behavior, prone to aimlessness or impulsivity, with harmful long-term consequences

Ne-Si (NP): When well-aligned, you’re able to carry out your good ideas, making progress in the world, very resourceful in turning around problems or setbacks

WEAKNESS: So many ideas, but you can’t just pick one, shut up & stick with it

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to be too idealistic / impractical, very careless about details, sometimes too scatter-brained to succeed, or keep repeating same mistakes
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Si-Ne (SJ): When well-aligned, you reliably carry out tasks & duties in a detailed, thorough way, knowing the best methods for handling & implementing logistics

WEAKNESS: So comfortable with routine but a new idea freaks you out

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to be too stubborn, narrow-minded, or risk-averse, unable to discover new / better ways accomplishing goals, because you can only see / accept one pre-existing or ‘correct’ way

Ni-Se (NJ): When well-aligned, you have ambitious & lofty visions for self &/or the world, very focused in pursuing an ideal

WEAKNESS: Your head’s in the clouds so much, you forget to stop to enjoy things

FAIL: When misaligned, your vision is too limited, or you have unrealistic expectations, too blind to see what you’re chasing is not workable, or that won’t have a positive outcome (maybe blind to important external changes)

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TJ = Thinking Judging …..

Te-Fi (TJ): When well-aligned, you’re determined & competent at setting goals & reaching them, very good at leading, & efficient at eliminating obstacles or solving problems

WEAKNESS: The facts are the facts are the facts  – & you don’t care if someone’s feelings get hurt

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to be too hasty / aggressive in how you try achieving goals, believing the end justifies the means, even trampling over others

Fe-Ti (FJ): When well-aligned, you can accurately assess the needs of everyone involved, & very compassionate in how you resolve interpersonal problems or social issues

WEAKNESS: You want to make everyone happy even if it means ignoring giant internal problems

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to be socially insecure/inept, easily misunderstanding others (even tho’ you believe you’re great at reading people). You try to influence social situations but choose ineffective strategies that are likely to blow up in your face later
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Ti-Fe (TP): When well-aligned, you’re knowledgeable & self-sufficient when trouble-shooting problems, very skilled at resolving whatever issues come your way

WEAKNESS: You want to get to the bottom of what makes the world ‘tick’ & don’t care if it makes society freak out

FAIL: When misaligned, you tend to have poor judgment, worsening rather than solving problems, by being unable / unwilling to see (human) complexities, or by dismissing other people’s valid viewpoints

Fi-Te (FP): When well-aligned, you confidently influence the world to become more moral & just, very passionate about creating opportunities for everyone to flourish

WEAKNESS: You spend so much time in your own world, to the point that facts aren’t important to you

FAIL: When misaligned, your evaluations tend to be too self-centered / subjective, & you keep wasting time on futile action that get negative results – not knowing the best way to produce lasting change in the world.

NEXT: Alcoholism – Intro, #1a

PREVIOUS : Dom-Aux #2

The TERTIARY function is needed for stress relief, if used in healthy way, to :
— give other overworked functions a break
— as a general support for the AUX & for relaxation

Because the MBTI letter of this function is not part of our type, it represents characteristics that tends to be less interesting to us, so fewer of its skills get developed. It generally starts exerting its influence about midlife, & can then
— be used to guide us toward areas of life that have been neglected or avoided, — & that require skills the person doesn’t feel comfortable using.

EXP:  a Thinking type with N-Tert could start taking a literature course & a Thinking type S-Tert might take carpentry or weaving classes…..

AUXILIARY can be negatively affected by an immature TERTIARY:

1 – Si or Ni dominant
Te-Fi (IxTJ) : If Fi-TERTinterferes with Te-AUX, the person can concoct faulty moral reasons for why they should stick to their beliefs at all costs. The result is manipulative or unproductive behavior, causing self-inflicted disappointment & withdrawal.
They may seem individualistic or principled (mistaken for Fi-Dom), but it’s more like. narrow-mindedness, greatly oversimplifying moral issues into crude B & W judgments (the higher Te), to become self-serving & insensitive (unlike Fi-Dom).
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Fe-Ti (IxFJ) : If Ti-TERT interferes with Fe-AUX, the person can come up with faulty logic to neglect / ignore social roles or responsibilities. Their insecure or guarded behavior leads to self-inflicted unhappiness &/or loneliness.
They may seem knowledgeable or analytical, (mistaken for Ti-Dom), but it’s defensive, used to rationalize away mistakes & criticism, or mis-attribute blame (the higher Fe). This creates incoherent / contradictory thinking & cautious behavior (unlike Ti-Dom).

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2 – Se or Ne dominant
Ti-Fe (ExTP) : If Fe-TERT interferes with Ti-AUX , the person can rationalize away their mistakes or bad behavior by twisting their perception of social interactions. They react by being thoughtless or devious, ending in self-inflicted isolation.
While they may seem sociable or charming, but have a calculating underside, treating others as tools / objects for self-centered gain (the higher Ti). This creates relationship failure & social discord (unlike Fe-Dom).
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Fi-Te (ExFP) : If Te-TERT interferes with Fi-AUX, the person can get an immediate but superficial gratification, leading to immoral or destructive behavior, causing self-inflicted suffering.
They can be determined or commanding, but with a desperate bent. They’re more likely aggressive & controlling, to make up for an underlying sense of inadequacy, or to temporarily soothe emotional pain (the higher Fi). This results in unnecessary setbacks or unintended consequences (unlike Te-Dom).

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3 – Ti or Fi dominant
Se-Ni (ISxP) : If Ni-TERT interferes with Se-AUX, the person can make excuses for why they can’t or won’t broaden their outlook. This causes short-sighted or over-simplistic judgments that lead to self-inflicted fatalism or self-defeating thinking.
They may seem serious or brooding, (mistaken for Ni-Dom), but it’s just superficial, carelessly dismissing deeper meaning or potential for growth (the higher Se). So they have a dejected or cynical attitude about what’s possible in life (unlike Ni-Dom)
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Ne-Si (INxP) : If Si-TERT interferes with Ne-AUX, the person can get stuck in their old comfort zones or rely only on past knowledge/experience. The result is doubting or stubborn judgments that lead to self-inflicted pessimism or stagnation.
They may seem reserved or proper, (mistaken for Si-Dom), but it has an obsessive undercurrent. They compulsively fuss over trivial details, misinterpret physical discomfort & irrationally magnify painful past experiences, (unlike Si-Dom) which gets projected as negative future possibilities (the higher Ne).

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4 – Te or Fe dominant
Si-Ne (ESxJ) : If Ne-TERT interferes with Si-AUX the person can continually make excuses for very sloppy decision making, which ends either in disruptive or micro-managing behavior, causing self-inflicted discord & chaos.
They may seem humorous, positive or clever, (mistaken for Ne-Dom( but there’s a grandstanding element used to cover anxiety, or deflect criticism & mistakes (the higher Si). It ends up in bad ideas that fall flat or make situations worse (unlike Ne-Dom).
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Ni-Se (ENxJ) : If Se-TERT interferes with Ni-AUX, the person can selectively only focus on what they wants to see, to justify unsound beliefs, leading to pointless or hasty action that cause self-inflicted failure or defeat.
It makes them seem fun & enthusiastic (mistaken for Se-Dom), but there’s an undercurrent of over-reaction, which makes them irritable & retaliatory when reality crushes expectations (the higher Ni).
They distort / overlook important realistic details, or react poorly to unexpected changes (unlike Se-Dom).(FROM: Type-spotting guide)

NEXT: DOM-INF

PREVIOUS: Dom/Aux #1

The AUXILIARY can be considered a bridge function that connects DOM with the lower half of the Stack (Tert & Inf)), which represents a more sustainable path to the expansion & integration of one’s type.
In most cases, trying to integrate Dom & Inf without the help of AUX creates an either-or / tug-of-war energy, rather than a symbiotic one. This is because the psychological gulf may be too great without the 2nd & 3rd providing additional personality characteristics.

Also, AUX gives needed Extroversion energy for the Introvert, & provides an Introverted opportunity to process experiences for the Extrovert. Without that balance, a person’s life can become ‘unmanageable’.

EXPs: If an Introvert doesn’t use their Extrovert AUX, they’ll just live in their head, imagining all the things they want to do, talking about them – endlessly, even make plans, but never actually DOing them.

💨 If an Extrovert ignores their I Aux, they’ll rush thru life taking actions without stopping to consider why, & making messes even if their motives are good, ignoring consequences to others, or the effect on their own physical & mental health ….

⛈ People who don’t use each function properly can become incompetent flakes who don’t do anything right (in the extreme, of course 🙁).
EXP: An Introvert who only relies on their DOM will start having unreal ideas of the world, while such an Extravert will be reckless & do thoughtless things….

DOM-AUXILIARY pairs at their MOST UNhealthy:

Te/Si and Si/Te (ESTJ or ISTJ) will completely lose sight of why they do & want the things they do & want, robotically going through the motions of life, checking off boxes, until they wake up one day to realize they’ve been miserable for the last 40 years

Se/Fi and Fi/Se (ESFP or ISFP) will be self-absorbed, caring only about their own experiences. They have a lot in common with ENTJ & INTJ, but those 2 types are more likely to bulldoze others into submission – making everyone hate them, while ESFP & ISFP will neglect people – making everyone just feel indifferent
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Se/Ti and Ti/Se (ESTP or ISTP) will become so disconnected from society that their skills & knowledge will lose relevance, but blame everyone else for their problems

Fe/Si and Si/Fe (ESFJ or ISFJ) will be fake & smiley. They’ll do everything possible to keep up the APPEARANCE of having a solid personal life, then let off steam by talking trash behind people’s back. With an unhealthy ESFJ or ISFJ, one can never be sure íf they’re really your friend – or not
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Ne/Ti and Ti/Ne (ENTP or INTP) will devil’s-advocate everything into oblivion, never committing to any opinions of their own

Ne/Fi and Fi/Ne (ENFP or INFP) will get trapped between their needs to consider everything vs making the absolute bestest decision, so become paralyzed
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Te/Ni and Ni/Te (ENTJ or INTJ) will become very, very selfish, not considering others when pursuing their goals

Fe/Ni and Ni/Fe (ENFJ or INFJ) will view the world through B & W colored glasses, while thinking they know what’s best for everyone. In their own mind, they’re morally superior judges standing above an evil, lazy world. In reality – they are just TREMENDOUS jerks.

NEXT: DOM-AUX #2

PREVIOUS: Unhealthy functions (T-F)

DOMINANT needs AUXILIARY to stay balanced – for both making decision and taking action.

Since the STACK is made up of our Type’s 2 center levels, it shows how we –should– gather new information (Perceiving – S or N), then process it & come to some conclusions (Judging – T or F), so we can make decisions that best suit our needs.
EXP:  someone with am E Dom will have an I as AUX to help, & vice versa.

To be psychologically healthy – mentally & emotionally – we all need to be able to move into action by paying attention to our outer world, AND to step back, pause & reflect on our experiences.

AUX’s  ‘nature’ is always different from, but not antagonistic to, our DOM : either of the irrational functions (S/N) can be auxiliary to one of the rationals (T/F), & vice versa.

So, Thinking & iNtuition can easily pair up, as can Thinking & Sensation, since neither N & S are by their nature opposed to the T function. Also,
— S can be bolstered by T or F auxiliary
— F is supported by S or N
— & N goes well with F or T.

EXPs: logical T succeeds with concrete S, speculative T forges ahead with imaginative N, artistic N can choose & present its ideas with the help of F-values, philosophical N systematizes its vision into comprehensive thought by a powerful T intellect …..
(from “General Description of the Types”)

NOTE: People who have not yet explored & developed their AUX may find it harder to identify their type. So, while an INJ may be confident about being an N type, without knowing their AUX they won’t be able to tell if they’re an INTJ or an INFJ.

Also, people ignoring their AUX will act very differently from those who incorporate it in daily living, although this may not always be deliberate, perhaps influenced by unconscious, environmental or other influences. (MORE…. )

♥️ The following info indicates the effect a HEALTHY Auxiliary can have:
🔹With Si or Ni dominant:
Te-Fi (IxTJ): AUX Te can make an Introvert more competent & goal-oriented, to help quickly correct faulty thinking & irresponsible behavior when needed, for better results

Fe-Ti (IxFJ): AUX Fe can make an Introvert more sociable & compassionate, to help them better integrate into social situations, & accept feedback when change is useful

🔹With Ti or Fi dominant:
Se-Ni (ISxP): AUX Se can make an Introvert keen to explore new first-hand or hands-on experiences, to broaden their outlook on life & make better judgments 

Ne-Si (INxP): AUX Ne can make an Introvert keen to imagine new possibilities & make improvements to their life.
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🔹 With Se or Ne dominant:
Ti-Fe (ExTP): AUX Ti can make an Extravert more analytical, to correctly calculate which decisions are most likely to produce beneficial results for everyone  

Fi-Te (ExFP): AUX Fi can make an Extravert more ethical & honorable in their decision-making, to avoid unhealthy behaviors that will sabotage themself 

🔹With Te or Fe dominant:
Si-Ne (ESxJ): AUX Si can make an Extravert more careful & thorough in their approach to people/problems, to help manage situations more effectively

Ni-Se (ENxJ): AUX Ni can make an Extravert more nuanced & thoughtful in their approach people/problems, to help carry out their vision successfully
(FROM: Type-spotting guide)
⬇️ 2 CHARTS by Eric Bolden : http://www.erictb.info/temperament2.html

NEXT: AUX #2

PREVIOUS: Unhealthy  N

🛠 THINKING
HEALTHY Ti: “Wait, have we checked everything? I wanna make sure it works

Ti types (ISTP / INTP) look for factual analysis – SO they can react very intensely confused or complicated situations
▪︎ They value being skilled & clear-headed, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as ignorant or irrational

Unhealthy Ti – those who think they’ve got it all figured out, yet results prove otherwise. They’re often cynical & smart-assed – & not in a fun way – criticizing & avoiding everything human – like emotions, unity, spirituality….
When Ti goes into “as long as I get when I want” mode, it’s aggressively manipulative, disregarding others’ feelings

ATTITUDE: “Well, it’s logical to me. I don’t care if it doesn’t work for others. They’re just emotional fools”

EXP: extremely skeptical, overanalyzes, obsessively searches for truth, harshly critical, outright rejects group institutions or norms

As unhealthy DOM
Ti: Think they’re the smartest, but can’t actually follow thru. They’d rather pick apart other people’s points endlessly, because they like to. They’re cynical & lack empathy – as an automatic defense to avoid their own emotional shortcomings

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HEALTHY Te: “OK, so these are the steps to make this happen. If anyone objects or has a new idea, let me know, because that matters

Te types (ENTJ / ESTJ) look for rational expediency –  SO they can react intensely against ambiguous or disorderly situations
▪︎ They value efficiency & competency, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as lazy or incompetent

Unhealthy Te – those who want everyone to stick to the rules, but are often the first to break or twist them when it works in their favor. Any “sound advice” will be sprinkled with insults about others’ ability to problem-solve, even their entire character. Most frustrating is that when people finally have had enough of them, they just don’t understand why. In their opinion, they’re actually the only rational & responsible ones

ATTITUDE: “I don’t care if you like it or not. That’s how it’s gonna be”

EXP: aggressive, B & W thinking, inconsiderate of/rejects others’ feelings, need for control, need for dominance, ruthless

As unhealthy DOM
Te: Boss people around, shouts judgments & criticism. Harsh & often belittling everyone. Prone to deny mistakes & shifts blame onto others

🛠 FEELING
HEALTHY Fi: “This is deep & personal to me. I want to live by it & lead by example

Fi types (ISFP / INFP) look for honor & integrity –  SO they can react intensely against unethical or infringing situations.
▪︎ They value being just & virtuous, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as callous or corrupt

Unhealthy Fi – masters at justifying everything they say & do. If all else fails, they’ll play the victim, loudly complaining that no one understands them. Their lives are often a disorganized mess, & please don’t offer them sound or logical advice, because that’ll really get them mad. They’ll gladly self-destruct even more – if it’ll get rid of you

ATTITUDE: “I don’t care if this hurts others. I’m gonna do it because it feels right”

EXP: excessively stubborn, hypersensitive, rejects objective decision-making, selfish, self-righteous, ‘special snowflake’ syndrome

As unhealthy DOM
Fi: Do & say whatever they please with total disregard for appropriateness – because that’s just “who they are”. Act irrationally, which they’ve mentally twisted into being the “right” thing to do. Refuse to take personal responsibility when things go south, since they’re convinced they were just being authentic & sticking to their guns

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HEALTHY Fe: “I wanna make sure everyone’s OK with this. I win if we all win

Fe types (ESFJ / ENFJ) looks for social harmony –  SO they can react intensely against inequitable or contentious situations
▪︎ They value being considerate & respectful, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as selfish or impertinent

Unhealthy Fe – they know what everyone’s up to, believing they have an ‘uncanny knack’ for knowing what’s best for everyone else. They’re just trying to lift themselves up by knocking others down. This may be gossiping, or judging other’s behavior as if they wrote the “Etiquette” book.
Worst of all, they never seem to realize they can’t take care of themselves without a lot of help from others, which should be their top priority.

ATTITUDE: “If he’s not OK with this it’s HIS problem – the rest of us agree”

EXP: desperate for approval, emotionally volatile, manipulative, obsessed with social standing, rejects logical reasoning,  spineless, self-neglecting

As unhealthy DOM
Fe: Expect everyone to cater to them. Only want to hear what they want to hear. Sacrifice too much for others, then demand constant attention & validation. Publicly ostracize anyone they don’t feel an affinity with.

NEXT: DOM-AUX functions

PREVIOUS: Unhealthy S 

SITE: “Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Every MBTI Personality Type”  (How each type tries to defend their ego)

CARTOON ⬅️

FUNCTIONS
▶︎  Our top 2 functions can manage a lot of stress before they start getting overwhelmed, especially the HERO (Dom). The MENTOR (Aux) function can handle more than the Sidekick (Ter), but at the cost of getting worse at dealing with anxiety. The SIDEKICK can manage anxiety (internal), but struggles most with stress (external). Finally, the RIVAL (Inf) struggles to handle both anxiety & stress. (Code Flow)

▸ When a function is over-stimulated, steadying it with it’s opposite function may help (Intro / Extro)
▸ If a function is under-stimulated, boosting it with it’s inspirational function may help.
Inspirational triggers help boost your function to its max.
EXP: Ne provides patterns, possibilities & ideas – that can be essential to the philosopher’s Ni conceptualization.

 🛠 INTUITION
HEALTHY Ni: “I figured out the pattern & it could lead to something great!”

Ni types (INTJ / INFJ) look for meaningful purpose – SO they can react intensely against unpredictable or pointless situations
▪︎ They value a life-calling & long-term implications, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as fickle or short-sighted

Unhealthy Ni – those who’ll have a 2 hour ‘discussion’ with you, mostly monologue, & don’t seem to make a point. They’re excited about anything & everything, but never get specific or say how their experiences turned out.
They not only contradict themselves in a span of a few days, but sometimes even in the same statement. While they often think of themselves as knowledgeable on just about every subject, most of the time its only surface info, based on something they heard in passing

ATTITUDE: “I’ll get to the bottom of this no matter what the cost!”

EXP: all-or-nothing goal setting, dismisses others’ opinions, no spontaneity, obsessive visualization, refuses to back up conclusions with evidence, “all-knowing” attitude, single-minded

As unhealthy DOM  
Ni: Have a bad case of superiority complex, thinking they understand things better than everyone else – when they actually don’t. Stubborn in their ideals & refuse to budge when new information is presented. At the same time, they’re afraid to act if they don’t think they know how to proceed, panic & think they’ll die if they don’t understand everything.

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HEALTHY Ne: “There are many side to this situation & many solutions”

Ne types (ENTP/ ENFP) look for mental stimulation – SO they can react intensely against repetitive or monotonous situations
▪︎ They value creativity & inspiration, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as narrow-minded or pessimistic

Unhealthy Ne – those who always think they understand stuff better than you, AND that their word is gospel. They effortlessly exude arrogance & superiority without even realizing it. Despite sounding ‘deep’, you still wouldn’t trade places with them, since they never seem to have had one minute of fun their whole life, & their only ounce of contentment is when someone says they were right about something

ATTITUDE: ‘I know I said I was gonna do that, but…. you know, something came up’

EXP: avoids mundane tasks, completely rejects traditional methods, detached from reality, extremely indecisive, commitment-phobic, flaky

As unhealthy DOM
Ne: Easily bored, constantly looking for something new.  Can’t stick with anything for more than a day or follow a schedule. Keep making the same mistakes over & over (maybe they need to be sure it is a mistake??) Often contradict themselves by the end of any pronouncement. Think everything established is old & worn out

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EXAMPLE : ENFP plus & minus (from Flow Code)

NEXT: Unhealthy T / F

PREVIOUS: Unhealthy S / N

SITE: Many LINKS   re. the Inferior Function

CARTOON  ⬅️

▶︎ In MBTI terms, being unhealthy means using a function in ways that harm self &/or other people – because it’s not working well with the rest of our stack, especially its opposite (Ne/Si, Te/Fi…). Tracking our behavior over time will alert us which function(s) are/is causing problems in life. Learning the healthy version of each one & how it applies to our specific Type can be a blueprint for growth.

When stressed:
Extroverts = become fearful & insecure about taking action
Introverts = frequently burn out, because of feeling ‘forced’ to act
Judgers = become passive / apathetic, as nothing ever goes smoothly
Perceivers = get rigid / compulsive, since they keep falling behind
AND :
Sensers = will lack confidence in their abilities, despite being talented
iNtuitives = be pessimistic, never imagining a better life
Thinkers = be short-tempered, from constantly being thwarted
Feelers = sabotage relationships by controlling or immoral behavior

🛠 SENSING
HEATHY Si: “I hear your idea. Tell me more & I’ll consider it, even if it’s not for me”

Si types (ISTJ / ISFJ) look for material security – SO they can react intensely against disruptive, new, unknown, or risky situations
▪︎ They value authority & precedence, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as unreliable or improper

Unhealthy Si  – never change their mind about anything, always shoot down any kind of alternative or proposal, & love to criticize anything they’ve never even tried. They take everything literally & panic when there’s no plan.
Some will go as far as experiencing progress as The Enemy, so it would take a bulldozer to move them from their comfort zone.
You just want to punch them in the face when they call all excited about a new discovery that you’ve spent 5 years telling them about!

ATTITUDE: “Nope, that’s stupid. I don’t need to consider it – it’s just wrong”

EXP: always plays it safe, completely ignores contradictory information, fixated on the past, obsessed with detail, stagnant, rejects novelty

As unhealthy DOM
Si : Super narrow-minded, doesn’t want to step out of their comfort zone to consider new ways of seeing or doing things. Harshly judges & dismisses as crazy anything not ‘normal’ to them

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HEATHY Se: “I want to full experience this – it makes me feel alive”

Se types (ESTP / ESFP) look for pleasurable engagement – SO they can react intensely against unsatisfying or tedious situations.
▪︎ They value being bold & adventurous, SO they’ll react against anyone they see as cowardly or passive (a parent?)

Unhealthy Se – they have a very short attention span, everything has to be FUN, & there’s no sense of the consequences of their actions. Always seem to be in trouble – legal, financial, professional….. so if you care about them you can easily get pulled into cleaning up one mess after another.
You’ll scratch your head when they ask to borrow money for the rent, & then buy something expensive, like a designer dress or a vacation trip……
They’re great for a night out on the town, but otherwise, it’s best to avoid them like the plague (from Steve)

ATTITUDE: “I wanna do this NOW. It won’t hit me in the butt later…. right?”

EXP: acts without considering consequences, completely rejects the theoretical, flighty, overindulgent, reckless, physically aggressive, refuses to plan ahead, (from High on MBTI)

As unhealthy DOM
Se: Unnecessarily risk-taking & reckless. Can’t for the life of them think 2 steps ahead, preferring to live all “Carpe Diem”, but at a hefty price. Will try to squirm their way out of every bad situation, rather than sitting back & thinking something through before they act
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EXAMPLE : INFJ plus & minus (from Flow Code)

NEXT: Unhealthy T/F

NOTE to all my readers, recent & long term:
Thank you for your interest & loyalty all these years!

Re. “PROGRESS not Perfection”- & listening to friends reminding me of spelling errors, I decided it was time to do major housekeeping.

1. on the back office list I went through every post’s SLUG to make any needed corrections

2. going thru posts, starting at the beginning – to check spelling

3. cutting down any post that’s too long, keeping to about 650 words per.
Info on most topics is so dense & intense that making them into bite-size chunks is best.
It includes moving paragraphs around, reword some parts & add new info where appropriate

4. EACH new one also has to be added to the YEAR page, in the correct month
it goes in  (EXP: “ROLES” – in July 2011), making sure the links work – moving entries in the second column to fit

5. Need to correcting the TOPICS page (# of posts listed)

6. I also have to find new art work, which adds a lot more internet research time. Not complaining – just saying.

🧡 As of this writing, over the last 2 weeks – I’ve gotten through 2010 & half of 2011.

** That’s why you may be getting flooded with a lot of one-page posts, often as “Part 2”, (even though they’re dated to the appropriate month & year), which is interrupting the flow of a current topic about the MBTI.
Annoying, but it may serve as a reminder to review topics of interest, BUT please always start with Part 1.

PS: Other than spelling, this won’t have to be done for the last few years, as I’d started keeping to the lower word count.

AND now – DRUM ROLL:

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