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 ‘Safety Signals’ can Rewire your Brain for Calm
Emotional Safety is not limited to close relationships. It’s  also available in everyday environments. Seemingly simple contexts can provide powerful refreshment to a nervous system in need of rest :
— a teacher who answers questions from students without judgment
— a workplace that values psychological well-being
— a chapel that offers a quiet, protected space…..

Safety Is Not a Luxury.  We each have beautifully intricate wiring which constantly feeds information from our bodies to our brain & vice versa.
Every moment we marinate in fear – no matter the ‘reason’ – is a tiny bit of energy drained from our system. Those bits accumulate, so we end up with fewer & fewer reserves to cope.
Although Healing does not erase the past,  in the present it reshapes itself in our being. What once felt far away starts to feel reachable.

EXTERNAL Cues
Find the Safety Signals in your environment.  Silently it tells us that it’s okay to pause, to breathe, to just to be.
When you think or a person, place or thing – what softens your fear ?
❤️‍🩹 Start the journey by stepping away from harm.  Every cue of safety we let ourself experience replenishes energy & the reserves needed to deal with the every-day stressors.  When safety is infused into the ordinary, healing becomes woven into daily life. There are many cues available, & they are as unique as you are. Healing often proceeds from unexciting moments, restoring stability through daily patterns.

These moments stitch together a new foundation to support us – where fear once lived. Our marvelous nervous system is designed to help.  Safety Signals create micro-adjustments to it that had been shaped by unpredictability. Treat yours with respect :  don’t blow its circuits with worry & anxiety. Find ways to slow down, calm, & restore. It will pay off.

INTERNAL Tools
☆ Connection 
Belonging does not require being flawless or intense. It requires presence – the willingness to first show up for yourself, then encourage the daily rewriting of wound-stories that had been scarred by absence

☆ Grow Emotional Intelligence
This is the ability to recognize, understand, & regulate emotions, both in yourself & around others. It is a powerful tool for developing a sense of inner comfort

☆ Recognize Unsafe Spaces
 Not every environment nourishes emotional safety. Be aware of the temporary or long-term spaces you’re in, so you can make wiser choices that protect your well-being

☆ Reframe Self-Talk Patterns
Identify the Toxic beliefs from the Introject & constantly deny their validity – based on present reality. Reframing your narrative helps to strengthen your True Self

☆ Trust Your GUT
Rebuilding self-trust is crucial for emotional safety. Stop always looking for external validation. Thrust your God-given intuition. Validate your emotions without minimizing or dismissing them. Give  yourself permission to make decisions based on your own needs & values.

☆ Use your Boundaries 
EXPRESSING yourself SAFELY :
1. Only share what you feel comfortable with at the time
2. If you’re considering opening up to someone (being ‘vulnerable’), pick only one thing to share, rather than compulsively telling everything deep & personal all at once. Then see what the response is before continuing
3. Accept that sometimes sharing personal things may feel awkward & uncomfortable

4. If you do decide to open up, carefully evaluate if the other person is  trustworthy – based on what you already know about them – or about people in general (under-expect).

But also be careful to not over-expect.  People are not always going to fully get what you’re saying, feeling or needing. If it seems they’ve misunderstood or hurt you, try talking about it – from your Adult ego state
5. When you do share something personal (emotions, goals, dreams…), pay attention to how you are feeling emotionally & physically – at the time – which are clues about whether you feel safe or not in that situation.
If you don’t, then likely that person or place is not for you.

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