Narcissists’ FEARS + Def. (Part 1)



10 ways to discourage a N from dating you



🃏N. Collapse : when their manipulations & vulnerabilities are exposed or criminal activity caught, they no longer care what image they project, not able to be in control of themselves as they used to, acting unstable, even unhinged. Then – they can spring as fast as a rubber band, or stay collapsed for some time.

🃏N. Injury : a N. reacting badly to real or imagined criticism / judgment, when boundaries are set for them, or attempts are made to hold them accountable for harmful behavior. – Psych Central

🃏N. Tears : Don’t be fooled – they’re crying for themselves, not for you. These are crocodile tears, a term from an ancient anecdote about crocodiles weeping for the victims they’re eating. Now it’s about an NPD who wants to kill or actually causes the death of someone – but then publicly lament the loss. The may cry when their victim says they’re going to leave, the N’s abuse is identified by anyone, or sometimes when watching movies, TV, or the news

Even their emotions are narcissistic. IF their tears are real, the pain is about
themselves, and provides some attention. They get ‘supply’ in the form of sympathy or giving them the benefit of the doubt, or the empath doing things for them out of pity.

🃏 N. Trauma-Bonding : Victims become deeply attached to a N by the use of ‘intermittent reinforcement’– the manipulative maneuver of abuse mixed in with periodic affection at unpredictable moments. Each time the N is kind’ the victim feels hopeful that things are finally better – until the next round. BTW – periods pf relief are always brief, while the cruelty takes up most of the relationship.

🃏N. Rage : the N reacts with intense anger, aggression, or passive-aggression when they have a disappointment or setback, which shatters their illusions of entitlement, grandiosity, & superiority, triggering their sense of inadequacy, shame & vulnerability.
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What SCARES Narcissists?

🚯 The N’s MAIN fear is of being Alone – without a steady stream of human ‘suppliers’ of worship! So much so, they’ll even go back to an inadequate previous resource (parent, lover, guru, boss….) who they previously dumped & slandered – if they don’t have any other option at the time.  “A lonely narc is a vulnerable one.”

❧ Authority
Ns detest authority. That’s because they resent having to answer to anybody but themselves. Any sense of authority threatens their inherent desires for power and control. To survive, many Ns are passive-aggressive toward bosses & other authority figures, seething inside with resentment that they don’t have all the power they think is their due. Others can come across as combative & unfit in professional environments. If confronted by their inappropriate behavior, they tend to deny or rationalize their part.

❧ Being told NO
This is one of their most hated words, along with Truth & Silence. Ns are used to manipulating & weaseling their way into getting what they want – spending their whole life charming people into meet their needs. Telling them NO – & being adamant – will usually get you an angry reaction. They’re not just frustrated,  they’re downright confused by it! no understanding they you have needs that are different from theirs.

❧ Criminal Justice System…
….. if
facing Jail. They hate any serious loss of freedom, from ankle monitoring to house arrest to actual prison time. They think: “How could I end up in jail for something I definitely did & assumed I’d get away with!”
Unfortunately, Ns are very good at manipulating the judicial system, from cops to their own lawyers to judges, coming up with such crazy justifications for their behavior that it ‘has to be’ true.

❧ Criticism
Criticism is usually about what the Ns did or didn’t do which displeased someone – not about their carefully crafted identity.
That’s why criticism is less deadly to a N than an insult. No – they won’t like it at all, since they’re actually very sensitive – but only for themselves.

Criticism will take a toll, but may be laughed away or met with comebacks. They’re also famous for throwing the criticism right back at the speaker : ‘Yeah, well you did……’


Types of READERS (Part 2)

PREVIOUS: Type of Readers, #1

QUOTE : “What I love most about reading is that it gives you the ability to reach higher ground & keep climbing.” ∼ Oprah


TYPEs of People (cont)

Don’t even think about gifting this reader a paperback romance from the supermarket. They take pride in their knowledge of the classics, or whatever book former presidents or influential scholars are currently raving about in their annual reading lists.

These types can’t be bothered with mass-market fiction or whatever the rest of us are reading on the beach. So unless you’re also a bit of a literary snob, you’re not likely to have a discussion with them about your favorite authors.

📱Hopeless Romantics
You probably guessed it – the Hopeless Romantic is a die-hard fan of romance novels, and they don’t care what Highbrow Readers or Nonfiction Nerds think. You can probably find every Danielle Steel novel ever written sitting on their shelves, along with a variety of historical romances & Nicholas Sparks staples.
And when the actors for the inevitable film adaptation are finally announced, you know they’ll have something to say about it!

For some of you, your high school Lit teacher made you turn in your copy of Lord of the Flies to check your homework-assigned margin annotations.
But the Note-Taker doesn’t do this for a grade – it’s their passion! The margins in some of their old paperbacks could probably tell stories that beat the book itself. Taking notes while you read (fiction or nonfiction) can be a great way to process information & reflect on your own thoughts about the text.

📱Nonfiction Nerds
From self-help, to travel memoirs, to brilliant how-to hacks, the Nonfiction Nerd prefers facts over fiction. They’ll devour numbers, historical accounts, true-crime & every kind of real-life story. And they’re not wrong – after all, life is full of great stories.
We don’t always need made-up ones to stay interested. Plus, if you love picking up bits of random knowledge, the Nonfiction Nerd style is a great addition to your favorite one

There’s plenty of love in this reader to go around (just don’t tell the others). The Player doesn’t like choosing favorites, but thanks to their curious mind & multi-tasking abilities, they don’t have to.
They can start mornings with an inspirational self-help book, & doze off in the evening with a bookmark in the latest sy-fy or romantic bestseller. Not everyone is comfortable with this kind of juggling, but The Player needs it to feel nourished

Polar opposite of the Player. Once the Repeat Reader pairs up with a book or author, they’re loyal for life. Whatever good intentions you may have when recommending a new book to them, they may smile politely before picking up their cherished copy of The Sun Also Rises for the 100th time, & are never bored. They’re not exactly obsessive (?), they just like to snuggle down & feel cosy with what’s familiar

📱Serial Binging
These readers are like Netflix binge-watchers – once they get a feels for a group of characters or a particular writer’s style, they can’t & won’t stop until they’ve read everything available so far. And pity the poor soul who has to keep this type company while they anxiously wait for the next release! Remember the long lines waiting hours for the next Harry Potter?

📱Series Lovers
These people must read (or audio-listen to) groups of consecutive novels – in whatever genre they’re passionate about at the moment – ongoing novels that carry over the same location & the same main characters throughout. That way they don’t have to feel abandoned at end of a favorite story. When they get their fill they can move on to anther series

Life’s busy. Sometimes the only chance you get to dive into a good book is on holiday. The Vacation Reader loves to unwind with a page-turner, whether they’re sprawled out on a beach, riding on a train, or sitting in their backyard with a glass of wine.

They read for pleasure, so don’t limit themselves to just one genre or class like Highbrows. Because they don’t have much free time, so when they do get to unwind, they choose what makes them happy.

NEXT: Narcissists’ FEARS, #1

Types of READERS (Part 1)

PREVIOUS: Journaling, #4


Reading STYLES
 – rapidly, for the main points
Scan – rapidly, to find specific info needed
Revision – rapidly, to confirm understanding of familiar info
Intensive – in shorter texts, for detailed info, with emphasis on precise understanding
Extensive – in longer texts, often for pleasure & for overall understanding

Reading STAGES :
Before – get an overview from table of contents, headings….
During – read actively (highlight, make notes) & critically (ask pointed Qs)
After – thinking about the text, make a brief summary

TYPES of people

📱Book Clubbers
They make most of their reading choices from what their book club has been assigned at the moment, or on the recommendations of whichever celebrity book list they’re following.
And they wouldn’t be in bad company. Prominent figures such as the Obamas, Mark Zuckerberg, & Oprah are all known for sharing their suggestions, which are usually on point. Ask a Book Clubber what they’re reading – they can always help you find your next page-turner!

📱Catharsis Seekers
A good book should provide some ‘feels’, whether to make you laugh, sob, or feel nostalgic. Catharsis Seekers want to feel it all. They can even get so emotionally attached that they’re thrilled when a character falls in love & very sad when one dies.
If you’re thinking about a book character as you go through your day – you’re emotionally hooked.

📱eBook Deniers
Though many of us appreciate the benefits of an eReader, the eBook Denier refuses to adapt. They want the feel, smell & comfort of crisp pages, getting great pleasure from seeing treasured stacks of hardcovers & paperbacks piled up everywhere.
Technology is a godsend for lots of things, but don’t waste your breath trying to convince the eBook Denier a Kindle is much easier to use

📱Fiction Lovers
On the other end of the spectrum from the Non-fiction Nerds sits the Fiction Junkie, who is uncomfortable with too much reality. They’re not interested in the way things are or were. They crave stories from other worlds, other times & other dimensions.

But that doesn’t mean the characters aren’t real to them – just try talking to a Harry Potter superfan for 5 minutes & you’d think they studied at Hogwarts right next to Ron & Hermione.

📱Fickle Readers
These people might have a little of everything on their reading list, but have trouble seeing the job through. Unlike The Player, who knows how to spread the love around, the Fickle Reader tends to get bored fast – so they quickly move on to whatever catches their eye next. You could build a fort out of all the half-read books they have lying around

📱Film Buffs
Some people like to see film adaptations after they’ve finished the book. Others don’t, claiming the films are never as good as the books. And some prefer grabbing a copy of the book after falling in love with characters on the big screen. Either way – no judgment here

📱 Genre Snobs
These focused souls find a literary category early on & stick to it for life, or at least a decade. Some are only interested in anything non-fiction, considering the ‘other’ beneath their intelligence & therefore a waste of time. Some will only read spiritual or religious literature, others only technical manuals…. each turning up their nose at other categories. We may rightly think they’re missing out, but they’re satisfied

📱Harry Burns
In When Harry Met Sally, Harry explains that he likes to read the last page of a book first, so in case he dies, he’ll know how it ends.
These readers love to do the same, & they’ll keep doing it, whether you think it’s clever or a crime punishable by death.
FYI: If you’re thinking about planning them a surprise party, don’t.

📱 Hate-Readers
These are the people who will not allow themselves to quit reading a book they don’t like or that doesn’t hold any interest – even though they realize this after 2-3 chapters. They’re afraid they might miss something, OR have the illusion that it will get better if only they persist. Unfortunately the rest of their relationships are similar – they “stay too long at the fair!”, hanging on to people that are toxic or that they’ve outgrown. Don’t!

NEXT : Type of Readers, #2

WRITING for Personal GROWTH (#4)

 PREVIOUS : Writing for MENTAL HEALTH (#3)

SITE :“550 Prompts for Narrative & Personal Writing”

REMINDER : You do NOT have to answer every Q. each time you write. It will depend on how much time you have & if you’re very tired or stressed. You can do them in groups, or if short on time – pick one from each of the following 3 ‘books’ & only write the first thing that comes to mind. Use these Qs for your benefit, not as obligation. Do NOT let the WIC get overwhelmed.

Writing PROPMPTSPractical = for Planning, ASK :
What am I going to do? How am I going to do it?
What tools or resources do I need?
Who can I ask for help / advice?
What would be the first steps?
Personal  = for Self-awareness & deeper reflection, ASK :
What made me who I are today, & why / how?
What have been the most memorable events of my life, & why?
What have been the happiest moments of my life, & why?
What would my ideal life look like?

Why are my major fears?
Why do I keep worrying / obsessing about _____ ?  & Why am I hanging on?

🌼 Nature Journals – these can be used to keep track of the flora & fauna they see in nature, especially the species that interest them most

🌕 Daily Prompt – responding to a variety of prompts will give children a good open-ended opportunity to write about a new topic every day

❄️ Emotions Journal – when writing about their feelings, children can learn new vocabulary, identifying & recognizing emotions in themselves & others.

🚌 Vacation Journal – this fun version can be a good bonding opportunity for the whole family (or classroom). All the child needs to do is add pictures, memories, souvenirs, & anything else that reminds them of their vacation (Morin, 2018)Journaling benefits to children 
📗 Enhance their reading skills, which helps with communication (written & verbal)
📝 Improve writing skills, including grammar, sentence structure, spelling & vocabulary

🔎 List pros & cons of something when needing to make a decision
🔎  See the positives as well as negatives in any situation
🔎 Gain insight into their own motives (for actions) & other’s motives
🔎 Plan out & practice tough conversations in advance
🔎 Reflect on their thoughts about something after the fact

💗 Opportunity to explore & identify all their emotions 
💗 Take advantage of an outlet for things that are hard to express or uncomfortable to share
💗 Help them deal with “big feelings” in practical & safe ways
💗 Give them permission to feel “taboo” emotions like loneliness, sadness, anger..… & for some – relaxation, relief & enjoyment! 

NEXT : Types of Readers, #1

WRITING for Personal GROWTH (#3)

blk man headPREVIOUS: WRITING for Mental Health (#2)

SITEs : “83 Benefits of Journaling for Depression, Anxiety & Stress”

BOOK: “Freedom Journaling! How to Journal Your Way to Success

POST: Anxiety & T.E.A.

Physical & Mental HEALTH Benefits of Journaling
In the first study on expressive writing (Pennebaker & Beall, 1986), college students who wrote about their deepest thoughts & feelings reported significant benefits in objectively assessed & self-reported physical health, with less frequent visits to the health centre, & with fewer days out of school owing to illness.

📍Diarists become more in tune with their body’s processes by connecting with inner needs & desires. This can translate as needing fewer days for hospital ‘visits’
📍One study showed that expressive writing (like journaling) for only 15 to 20 min. a day 3-5x for 4-month– can decrease symptoms of many health conditions, such as significantly lowering blood pressure, & improving liver & lung functionality 

📍Improves immune function, with can lessen symptoms of asthma & rheumatoid arthritis
📍Increases both length & quality of sleep
📍Encourages exercise, reducing physical pain, & has even been reported to help heal wounds faster

📍Helps the brain regulate emotions, which improves mood. This results in a feeling of well-being, leading to more self-confidence & a greater sense of one’s Identity
📍Unlocks & engages right-brained creativity, giving access to full brainpower

📍Boosts memory & comprehension, as well as increases working-memory capacity
📍Research shows that journaling helps develop more structured, adaptive, & integrated schemes about oneself, others & the world
📍May benefit social & verbal communication styles (objectively assessment)
📍Improves cognitive processing, which can limit Rumination (obsessions) 
📍Reduces absenteeism from work. Helps speed up re-employment after job loss
📍Raises students’ grade point average. Improves sporting performance

1. Re. ANXIETY – Journaling can:
☀︎Allow you to explore your experiences with anxiety
☀︎Calm & clear your mind, so you can let go of negative thoughts more easily
☀︎Identify childhood triggers & improve PMES self-awareness
☀︎Release everyday stressful events & pent-up emotions
☀︎Track your progress in Recovery, and validate your successes

☞ are the people/ place / things that trigger my anxiety? (Toxic Inner Dialogue, disappointments, criticism….)
☞ are all the strategies I use that help me cope with an anxiety attack?
☞ is my anxiety trying to tells me about myself? I can use the info to heal old wounds & motivate myself positively
☞ are 3 lessons I’ve gotten from my anxiety?
2. Re. DEPRESSION – Expressive writing seems to reduce symptoms:
🔅of depression in women traumatized by intimate-partner violence
🔅 even when it does not reduce the frequency of intrusive thoughts in depressed individuals
🔅 of depression in high-risk adolescents, & may be as effective as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) 
🔅of brooding & rumination in college students vulnerable to depression,  2 aspects of depressive symptoms 
🔅after only 3 days of journaling, 20 min. a day, lowering depression scores, as reported by people with Major Depressive Disorder 
🔅for as long as a person continues gratitude journaling

☞ was the most difficult experience I’ve had in life? (emotionally stressful or complicated, physically painful….) What did I do to deal with it?
☞ life lessons did I learn from the difficult experience?
☞ is my Inner Critic saying about the way I handled it? RESPOND by focusing on the positives

🏅are all the things I’ve already overcome in my life?
🏅have I done that was healthy & fun for myself? When?
🏅specifically could I do right now to make me feel happy? Keep it simple, & possible! Then DO IT.

🏅 are some things I’m grateful for? (in each PMES category). Cultivating gratitude can increase optimism, which will encourage us to keep working toward goals & thereby improve our quality of life. And there are different ways to express gratitude besides just making lists.

EXP: WRITE a letter to 3 of your greatest supporters, telling them how much you appreciate who they are & the ways they’ve been there for you. Be specific in PMES ways (Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual).


WRITING for Personal GROWTH (#2)

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Journaling can be especially helpful for PTSD or childhood trauma sufferers. But simply doing a “brain dump” of words on the page may feel good doesn’t usually increases well-being or decreases depression symptoms.

To have a positive impact on mental health, appropriate procedures are needed: 
 ♟ Write once a day, 3-4 days consecutively, or as often as you can
♟ Use a private, personalized space free from distractions
♟ Don’t worry about grammar & spelling – just get Thoughts & Emotions down. What matters is that you understand it

♟ Be as honest as you can. Holding back holds back answers you’re looking for. This is where you can be 100% authentic without worrying about what you think others are thinking!. Al-Anon says “You’re only as sick as your secrets.”

♟ If you’re writing to heal trauma, you don’t have to write about specific events unless that feels right at the time you’re writing
♟ It’s best to write by hand. Research shows that it stimulates the brain much more than typing. If you need privacy, keep it in a small metal lock box
♟ Keep your journal totally private – NOT for anyone else to see (you can tell your therapist what you’ve gotten from it)
♟ After writing, give yourself a little time to reflect, & to balance yourself 


Daily Journaling BASICS  
NOTE: To not get overwhelmed & not use the excuse of “I don’t have time”- your daily entries can be very brief, even to just several single words or phrases per category – appropriate if writing in a pre-formatted workbook. When you have time, make the entries as long as you want – using a regular notebook of your choice but make sure each entry is dated – especially if you skip days.

am : Goals for the day – identifies what matters most to you right now. Something ‘magical’ happens by regularly write down what you really, truly, genuinely want in life – you actually start to get it
🌱Every morning, before starting work, open a fresh page in your journal & write your top 10–15 goals.
🌱The next day, do the same thing – without looking at the previous day.

🌱Do this for 30 days — wake up, re-write your goals, don’t look at each past day. You’ll notice that your goals will start to clarify, transform, or change altogether. This allows you hone in on what you really want in life.

pm :  End of day log – list which of your am goals you accomplished – if any (even partially) . Be specific. If you were not able to do those, then write what you did accomplish – to insure you acknowledge any positive activities

if you have time, very briefly list where you went, what you did, what you ate, who you saw & spoke with….. It comes in handy when you need to remember or figure out something later, & in the future. These are just FACTS.

As a memory aid – during the day:
🎍Carry a smaller notebook to quickly write whatever you’re doing – very briefly (done when in the bathroom, in any kind of transportation, waiting in line….)
The important thing is to keep the format loose enough so you’ll actually do it. Then you can expand on it in the pm – including emotions, evaluations, insights…..

pm : Best thing that happened today – it can be one small or big thing. It can be a good thing you did, or a good thing that happened to you. It’s a way to train our brain to focus on the positive things in out life – & keep our attention in the present

am & pm : Gratitude list (at least 3, or more). In the morning, staring with an appreciation for what you have – right now – will set off a domino effect of optimistic  approach to your day’s work & personal interactions.
In the evening, list 3 (or more) benefits of your day – different from the am list. It can include something bad that did not happen! especially anything your WIC was sure would turn out badly

NEXT: WRITING for Personal GROWTH (#2b)

WRITING for Personal GROWTH (#1)

PREVIOUS : Writing Archetypes #2

SITE : “11 best bibles for Journaling”

List of Online writing help

QUOTE: “Whether you’re keeping a journal or writing as a meditation, what’s important is that you’re having a relationship with your mind.” ∼ author Natalie Goldberg

Journaling requires the application of the analytical, rational left side of the brain. While that hemisphere is occupied, your touchy-feely, imaginative right side has the freedom to wander & play! Allowing the time & space for creativity to flourish & expand can make your life more interesting & enjoyable.
🕶 Creates Distance
…. mentally, between you & whatever event / problem you’re writing about. It helps you think about it more clearly, see it from a new angle & come up with options you didn’t think of before.
…. emotionally, since being too triggered by a situation makes it hard to be objective
😅 Provides Relief – It’s a way to lighten the inner load you’re carrying, almost as good as sharing it with a trusted friend or confidant
✍️ Keeps you focused – When you want to work out a stressor or practical problem, it counters being scattered or distracted, an excellent way to stay mentally on track

….. let JOURNALING keep you living in your head too much
….. turn you into a passive observer. Make sure you experience real life instead of just thinking about how to write about it
….. let it become an exercise in self-blame, instead of finding solutions
….. use it to focus only on the negative parts of your life
….. limit yourself to only one point of view about any topic. Also imagine ways that other people’s motives may be very different from your own

JOURNALING can encourage you TO :
⁍Choose activities – If you have lots of potential interests, but can’t decide  which one to start with – spend a week everyday writing about each idea, & what you can do. Then pick one, & keep at it as long as it interests you
Explore the world – To write well & interestingly, it really helps to know something about the rest the world. Expand your knowledge of history, other cultures & customs, languages, art….

Identify goals – Writing down specific wishes, hopes & concrete goals make them easier to reach. Periodically review the list & your actions, considering ways to improve, but mainly to feel inspired & empowered by your progress.
Increase awareness – The more you explore & become interested in new ideas, the more you’ll find out what you truly believe in & want for your life

Improve listening – journaling is a place to listen to yourself. It not only helps organize & improve you thinking patterns, but makes it easier to pay careful attention to people’s conversations, increasing your connection to others
Progress your career – if writing is part of your job, then daily private journaling can improve business writing. This can make you better at communicate with co-workers & customers, boosting your career


TYPES of Journals (+ workbooks)
Choose ONE
you can focus on. You can always add others, temporarily, or at different times in life.
this site lists suggested workbooks to purchase for each category, prepared to make journaling simpler

Book – books you’ve read & what you thought about each (review?)
Bullet – list your interests & preferences (colors, pets, books, movies….)

– pour out hopes, dreams, deepest secrets
Dream – as soon as you wake up, as much or as little as you can, even if gratitudejust a ‘scene’s  or part of one

Food – everything you eat each day. How did it make you feel & what did you like / not like abut it (physically)?. Recipes, fav restaurants, photos…..
Gratitude – helps focus on the good things in life, in spite of difficulties
One LINE a day – just 1 thought – keeping it simple, especially when you’re busy or stressed

Projects – list completed projects & future ideas, with photos. Can keep you inspired & focused on creativity
Self-Development – for accountability & motivation, used to identify track your progress & where you can improve

Travel – treasure all your memories, especially the highlights
Vision – let yourself dream of possibilities – outside the box.

NEXT : Writing #2

Writing ARCHETYPES (Part 2)

PREVIOUS : Writing Archetypes (#1)

SITE : 10 other names for Personality-writing Types 

⬅️  “Writing Styles of some Engineering Researchers”

QUOTE: “Writers are among the most sensitive, most intellectually anarchic, most representative, most probing of artists. The writer’s ability to imagine what is not the self, to familiarize the strange, and to mystify the familiar – all this is the test of her or his power.” ∼ Toni Morrison, “The Source of Self-Regard”

NOTE : Part 1 is more about styles or categories or writing.
The following list is about personality-type writers.

♛ CLOSET Writers
They’ll never refer to themselves as a writer. In fact, many of these might not even know they are. Although they often have great ideas & sharp writing skills, they’re too shy to share their work. And heaven forbid someone should ever see their unedited drafts! Unfortunately, some of their best ideas will follow them to the grave, unless a friend miraculously stumbles across their secret manuscripts

They’re a ‘jack of all trades’, having tried just about every type of writing you can imagine, from nonfiction self-help guides to romance novels. Just try putting them in a box – they won’t stand for it!   

They want to leave their “real” world behind, if only for a while. They may have a job that’s not fulfilling, or not satisfied with their relationships – but whatever ails them, writing gives them a channel to another life, a path to freedom.
The Escapist may or may not be a Closet Writer, & maybe wouldn’t like doing it full-time if given the chance, but as long as they’ve got a pen in their hand, they can happily get lost in another world – hopefully one that we readers will benefit from

They can find inspiration anywhere & at any moment. That’s why it’s imperative for them to always carry a small notepad or keep sticky notes handy. If they don’t keep track of all those ideas, most will never see the light of day.
It’s rare to come across an Idea Machine with writer’s block, at least in the early stages of creating. Unfortunately, many of their ideas never get expressed, because they’re too easily distracted by the next flashing lightbulb

These are not far off from the Closet Writer, but their shyness isn’t about the fact that they write. Instead, it’s just about being an introvert – happily sitting alone, hunched over their laptop in a coffee shop. They prefer the company of notepads & fresh Word documents over people, which is normal for them.

They do what the Plotter couldn’t even imagine – starting with an idea, & just letting the rest flow from there.
They’ll have a vague idea of where & how the story ends up, but it doesn’t keep them up at night. They embody the quip “flying by the seat of your pants”.

Opposite of the Tortured ones, these get an idea, & know how to run with it – fast. Their talent is in their ability to articulate ideas clearly & quickly – although they usually need a good editor once it’s done.
Ian Fleming was notoriously fast churning out his Bond novels – averaging about 6 weeks for each installment.
Of course, a writer’s speed might change, depending on what they’re writing, how much research needs to be done first…. but in general, once they get started, there’s no stopping them.

These usually start out as a Reluctant writer, or even a Closet Writer. But there’s something burning inside, a story that just needs to get out.
Maybe they survived a war, or overcame extraordinary life circumstances. Whatever it was, they feel a responsibility to share that story with the world. Their experiences ofter show up as memoirs, though they might also turn into fascinating fiction

These are never satisfied. In fact, they could spend years rewriting the last 3 chapters of their novel before letting anyone see it. Maybe they’re perfectionists, or maybe they love the story so much they really want to do it justice.
They can probably be found locked in their library or office, downing endless cups of coffee – or something else – & shooting yet another draft into the wastebasket.
EXP: Ernest Hemingway rewrote the ending to A Farewell to Arms 47 times, while F. Scott Fitzgerald continued to rewrite The Great Gatsby even years after it had been published

They have a reading equivalent, & you’ll know them when you meet them. They’ll go on & on about their process& about whatever the latest “in” author is doing. They only read high-brow literature & write exclusively in leather-bound journals shipped straight from Florence. Oh, and their coffee is always black. Always.

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NEXT : Writing for Personal Growth, #1

Writing ARCHETYPES (#1)


QUOTE: “Stories require voices to speak them & ears to hear them. Stories only foster connection when there is both someone to speak & someone to listen.” ∼ Brene Brown (I Thought It Was Just Me)

✍️The most common ways to label WRITERS is by what they write and how they write it, by subject & format, & by their skills & foibles. (From Dawn Field – 2017)

♦️Flag-stakers = These are the rare greats who define how books are written. The very best of all types, they break the rules so skillfully, that they make the rules.
▪︎ the world’s first novel, considered to be Murasaki Shikibu’s Tale of Genji from 1010
▪︎ followed almost 600 years later by the first European novel, Don Quixote by Miguel de Cervantes in 1605 
▪︎ Edgar Allen Poe founded the horror genre, & Stephen King redefined it for modern times 
▪︎ Early leaders, such as Jules Verne, helped create the science fiction genre 
▪︎J.K Rowling conquered the billionaires’ list for Harry Potter (& fell off it again, admirably, for the extent of her charitable donations).

♦️‘I Hear Voices’ Writers = these say “I didn’t write it, someone else did” or “Characters talk to me, I just write what they say.” 
Of course, these authors do put their own name on their works. It’s just that they have very vivid imaginations, as the subconscious & super-creative parts of their brain talk, instead of ‘normal’ voices of daily life 

♦️Natural Born Writers = these have a superior ‘ear’ for words. Like musicians, they play words like instruments, weaving great melodies & rhythms. They can distinguish subtleties & subtexts that most people miss. They can’t stop writing, usually starting at a very early age. Many literary greats are in this group, but despite their prodigious talent, most still put huge effort into their art

♦️Obligatory Memoirists = memoirs can be the result of introspection or pressure from a publisher & fans of a high achiever (great writers, celebrities…) to reveal the secret of what formed their extraordinary life

♦️Olympian Writers = Prolific authors either write huge tomes that break coffee tables, or fill shelves with smaller books. EXPs: 
⁍Isaac Asimov, with over 500 books & 400 essays, averaging a book every six weeks
⁍Barbara Cartland, with 700 romances
⁍Agatha Christie, bestselling author of all time, with 66 detective novels
PICTURED: Chaucer, Shakespeare, Mark Twain, Virginia Woolf, Toni Morrison, Salman Rushdie.

♦️Reluctant Writers = This is a special category, of those who never thought of themselves as writers, but have a story burning a hole in their soul, often deeply personal. 
Whether out of fear, lack of time, or inexperience, many of them sit on a story for years, even decades. When such tales do finally spill, they’re often wonderful, filled with passionate emotions & thoughtful understanding

♦️Secret Writers = These work behind closed doors, or when everyone’s asleep, but never say a word about it, & so can be the last person you’d ever suspect.
They’re very protective of their time & effort. While some lack confidence to show their writing, others want privacy to get the job done, being very sure of the story they need to tell. And some just need time & space to incubate ideas far away from the world’s small-talk 

♦️Spill-Your-Guts Writers = These use writing for therapy – to help them make sense of their world, using fiction stories to make thoughts & emotions easier to articulate. It can lead to compelling writing, as it has a raw & authentic flavor. But it can also just be self-indulgent, whiny, or bombastic. Even if they’re also a Verbose Writer, it’s enough. It will also need structure & discipline to be great

♦️Tap Writers = These sociable people have many talents, so can easily fit into a local writers group. While the output is good, their true love is to sit quietly listening to others, tapping into the deeper emotional layers of what it means to be human. They can be the dependable member of a long-term, mature writing group, or the ones who always show up looking for fun, very often providing loads of it as well

♦️Verbose Writers = These are special, & you can hear it when they talk. They gush, often in funny & imaginative ways, cracking jokes, improvising effortlessly. They’re also overflowing with words when writing, like their brains run non-stop without an “off” switch. Not all take to writing, but those who do are likely to be successful.

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Analytic writing is not pure explanation or description. Instead, it requires the writer to first read & understand the genre (fiction or nonfiction) of the piece being considered, explain what’s happening in the text, & analyze some facet of it. The writer develops a thesis that supports their main claim about this particular piece, backing it up with proof from the text, with a summary that weaves them together.

This is a formal writing style, usually in the 3rd person – with an overall claim the writer is trying to convince the reader of. It is not Persuasive can get by with a heartfelt emotional appeal or a well-defended opinion.
Argumentative writing must cite scientific studies, statistics & quotes from experts.
It also highlights evidence that the author has generated from their own surveys & questionnaires. It requires well-researched facts from reliable sources (sites like Wikipedia are an OK starting point but not as final sources), & then argumentation are presented based on those facts.

This type is far different from professional writing – it’s the art of making things up. Biographies, crime, fiction, horror,  non-fiction, playwriting, screenwriting, scriptwriting & short stories all fall under this category. Basically, it’s any writing that originates from the imagination of one person, & can be found on many & other websites, as well as books & movie….

It’s made up of describing things such as characters, places, events…. in detail, using various adjectives & adverbs to make the picture vivid for the reader. It’s poetic in nature, connecting the outer world to reader’s inner world, by engaging all the senses. Through words, the author tells people how a person or place looks, feels, smells & sounds like.
It’s usually written with in the first person, & the context is emotional & personal. One not only read such books but also lives in its world

This uses description & explanation of a particular idea. Topics can cover the entire gamut of human experience, from inventions to nature, emotions to politics, family to hobbies…. (NY TIMES article) The main emphasis is on what the piece calls for. EXP:
ASK : – What’s the “newsworthy” part of this paper?
– How can I introduce this piece without giving it away upfront?
– How do I end without rehashing everything?
– How can I incorporate supporting material in an engaging way?….

This style is considered one of the most difficult to write but one of the easiest to read. It takes a lot of skills to write in such a way that it takes the reader in the world of the story. It includes the author’s purpose, tone, voice, structure.

It uses a main character, in a specific setting, who has to deal with a problem or event in some important way. It can range from personal narrative to fiction to “fan fiction.” All novels, poetry, short stories, biographies & autobiographies fall into this category.

This type is “to-the-point” writing, so it should not be intensified by using words like ‘always, very, never’…. It’s realistic, about something which can be supported with facts, examples, even shreds of evidence. The information provided should be well researched – statistically & scientifically correct. The author needs to remain neutral & unbiased, letting readers form their own opinion about the topic or premise

This is a form of non-fiction that encourages careful word choices, the development of logical arguments, & a cohesive summary,
& emotional appeal.
However, to convince readers of the author’s point, it has to have a sound premise, backed by logic, but does not include an opposing stance. Simply stating that ‘We shouldn’t do bad things’ isn’t good enough, being too vague, & not arguable.

Then it’s time to add in sympathy. Being persuasive relies heavily on reaching the audience emotionally. Not only must the writers’ point make sense, but it needs to be felt in people’s hearts as well as minds.

Review writing is an art. It can cover such things as restaurants & food, cosmetic products, books, movies, electronics….. Tech-savvy people read about items online before making any purchase. This requirement has become so important that many companies pay people to write about their products.

This type is opinion-driven. Authors write from their own perspective – stating opinions, beliefs, observations & experience. They don’t bother about accuracy. The subjective approach is important because it gives the reader an insight into the author’s thinking process, as well as the freedom to imagine things from their own unique perspective.

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