Enneagram Types : CHILDREN & Parents (#2)

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CHART ⬆️ : The Enneagram of PersonalityEnneagram Type Parenting Styles (the un-described types are mixtures of the two surrounding types – their WINGS)

SITEs: “Better Parenting with the Enneagram
🔔”Anatomy of the Enneagram Types– extensive descriptions of each type

The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study that appeared in the American Journal of Preventive Medicine in 1998 was ground breaking. Prior to it, few connections were being made between childhood trauma & chronically sick adults.

The ACE study only covered 10 types of childhood trauma, but now we know there are many more (bullying, constant moving, foster care, environmental disasters, multiple loss/ grief, homelessness, loneliness, racism, religious persecution, seeing others abused ….)

However, ACE did succeeded in linking adverse childhood experiences to chronic stress, ill health & social problems in adulthood, providing validation for many more people.

Leonie Ash’s award-winning poster shows some results of physical, mental-emotional & social ill health  CHART  ⬇️

of each type’s ‘common’ childhood stress-elements
#1 Child : required to take on too much responsibility too soon, pressured to do things “correctly / perfectly” before they were ready

#2 Child : had to choose between their own needs & the other person’s – to stay connected to those they depended on /loved

#3 Child : had well-intentioned parents who praised them for their accomplishments – for what they ‘did’ rather than for who they are

#4 Child : when they experienced actual or perceived loss of love in early life, they blamed themselves for it

#5 Child : their parent / caregiver was rarely responsive to their needs, which (correctly) made them feel neglected

#6 Child : often felt unsafe & unprotected by their parent / caretaker, who actually was unpredictable &/or undependable

#7 Child : may remember childhood as fun or idyllic. But a traumatic event made them aware of being ill-equipped to face life’s challenges

#8 Child : had to grow up too fast. Home was a battleground, where conflict or combat was necessary to survive, so they adopted a tough persona

#9 Child : was overlooked, not heard, not included. So they learned to go along to get along  (MORE…. for each)

EFFECTS of childhood trauma can be obvious or subtle, often expressed as pronounced changes in behavior or mood :
🔻Under-responding or over-reacting to emotional events
🔻Changes in behavior or communication : heightened anxiety, hyper-vigilance, clinginess, chronic worry, or explosive anger

🔻 Painful emotions – depression, despondency, lethargy, inability to focus, isolation, or quietness/ silence
🔻Chronic illness, including irritable bowel syndrome, chronic fatigue, lethargy, or being easily injured
🔻Academic under-achievement ( MORE, re Healing….)

For PARENTS (MORE….) : ‘YourEnneagramCoach.com’ has developed some useful guides to help parents identify & understand their child’s type, worldview, core desires & fears.
ASK yourself these Qs to identify how your child is wired:


NEXT : Ennea-type NEEDS

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