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🔆 The TRUE SELF is your ‘native’ personality, unique to YOU (even if you’re a twin), also called the ‘Natural, Free or Unadapted‘ part of the Inner Child.
💚 At its healthiest, it develops into the Adult, which becomes our Executive part. Reminder – for the Adult to be truly functional, it must be relatively free of Cognitive Distortions. BTW – 3 most common unhealed ACA distortions are : B & W thinking, Self-Hate & Mind-reading which leads to Confusion.

The Adapted Child is a core part of us that molds itself to our environment – from the young’s legitimate need to fit in, to learn what’s expected of them, for acceptance & for safety.
** In a reasonably healthy family, this normal Child ego state manages to adapt itself to whatever their culture is, but still retains its natural preferences, which gradually gets express as the child matures – without guilt or separation anxiety !

💔 Sadly, for anyone growing up in an alcoholic & narcissistic family, as our Adapted part absorbs the surrounding dysfunction, it becomes The Wounded Inner Child (WIC), also called the False Self.
(↗️ Post includes ‘True Self’. Review the 2 aspects as Ego States. Also in this chart). (LIST ↘️)
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PERSONAL ASSESSMENT
To do this exercise well, the focus needs to be on the qualities & characteristics of our True Self.  These can be gathered by having thoroughly done several personal inventories, combining the part of each which best apply to you. It’s normal to find contradictory characteristics, which need to get accepted & interwoven by the UNIT to make a WHOLE unique you.

🩶 Remember : the truest parts of us are the ones our Pig Parent don’t want the WIC to own & acknowledge, who believes its trauma training – making it terrified to accept our natural qualities. So stay awake & don’t let it bully you into denying them! Keep saying : “I don’t Agree” with demeaning comments.

CHARTS : Use each bubble as a guide to identify what you know about yourself so far – writing a separate inventory for each.  BASE it on your years of Recovery / therapy, and use your MBTI & Enneagram designations, Numerology, Astrology, O.C.E.A.N. characteristic…. Add all the valid, positive observations / comments / opinions from others about you that you’ve also noticed & agree with.

BUBBLES : IGNORE any issues in each category that don’t apply & add any left out. Don’t try to do them all at once. Start easy – taking one bubble at a time, & one category at a time. As you continue to Heal & Grow, you’ll be able to add more facts about who God made you.
If it helps, list what you know about yourself (skills, natural talents & tendencies….) into PMES  ↗️ or T.E.A. categories.

NO self-hate or recriminations allowed. Be honest and KIND!
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