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These employees prefer to sit on the sidelines & watch the action, unwilling to expert any effort. So if you approach them to help with an office task, they’re quick to say ‘That’s not my job’. They won’t do anything outside of their (very narrow) job description.
(Also see post of “BYSTANDERS” re Narc abuse)
These are the Victims, always moaning, their focus is on complaining about everything. It could be the workload, other employees, the boss, the customer, the drive to work, the day of the week, the weather….. Nothing is good or positive, but if there is – it’s dismissed as a fluke or not genuine. Complainers are dangerous because their negativity often seeps into the rest of the team & company culture.
These are the nitpickers, critical of anyone who doesn’t do things their way – perfectionists with impossibly high expectations of themselves & others. They can’t function in the grey or unpredictable areas of life, terrified that if they aren’t constantly arranging everything – something disastrous is bound to happen.
So they compulsively try to order their world to suit themselves, in some cases acting like OCD-ers. They can be a corporate asset because of a high attention to detail, but will step over social or work boundaries trying to influence people & situations that aren’t relevant to their own job duties.
When asked to make a decision, they say ‘Let me think about it & get back to you’. And that’s the last you’ll hear from them unless you chase them down, when they’ll probably fob you off with another delay. Ditherers’ indecision comes from different factors, so there are a number of sub-types – all of them severely slowing down work progress. Of course, they don’t like being held responsible for the team missing deadlines.
These types always have to be in the spotlight, & feel slighted if or when they’re not. To make sure they regain attention, they act out in some form, whether by pouting, getting a sudden illness, being loud & obnoxious or start crying. They’re easily influenced by those around them, totally reliant on approval & validation from others
Opposite of team players, these people believe they’re unique & more talented than everyone else. They rarely ask for more info they’re ignorant about, usually unwilling to recognize the value of other people’s work, unless there’s something in it for them. HOWEVER, they can be hard to spot, because their opinions are rarely said directly, since their camouflage is to agree with everything their co-workers do or say. This way they can continue ignoring advice & direction
These are the highly emotionally reactive types, sometimes called “drama queen / king”, with some traits similar to people with Histrionic PD. The least little perceived difficulty, frustration or emotional injury can set them off. Their intense over-reaction to any slight upset is used as a weapon to get their way.
In need of excitement, their attention-seeking shows up in
theatrical actions & language. At the same time they use exaggeration to push everyone away, keeping relationships superficial.
When in a good mood they’re entertaining, funny & energetic. But when others don’t provide reinforcement & emotional support they’re desperate for, they sulk or yell, don’t finish tasks or make bad decisions based on feelings instead of facts.
VARIATION : Some ‘flamers’ live on negative energy, fueled by adrenalin. They procrastinate or delay work progress until there’s a crisis & something “just has to be done.” Assigned tasks become an end-of-the-world drama until finished – with their help.
These are the employees who love talking about other people (usually behind their back) & spreading rumors, often exaggerations or blatant lies). They act this way to cover their personal insecurities, deflecting attention away from their own bad work habits, or to create drama as a way of entertain themselves. Gossips may also have the distorted idea that they’re connecting with coworkers by passing on private or personal info about others in the office.
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