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567s “MANAGING” FEAR (cont)
► FIVES – Investigators (Part 2a)
► SIXES – Loyalists
6s, unlike 5s, have trouble trusting their own minds, which reel with negative, fearful possibilities, while not thinking things through for themselves. They expect the worst to happen, so they spend a lot of time making sure they’re protected against every eventuality.
Wanting so much to be liked & feel safe, they constantly look outside for guidance – to authorities, beliefs, jobs, philosophies, relationships, saving…. But no matter how many security structures they create, 6s are still filled with doubt & fear – as long as they’re not listening to their own inner voice.
– Phobic 6s can end up mistrusting the very people & beliefs they’ve turned to for reassurance, while –
– Counter-phobics will often react impulsively, confronting & defying the fear in an effort to be free of it – without considering underlying causes, or possible negative consequences of their rashness
Root: 6s are deeply afraid of being abandoned, which comes from people’s unpredictability. This makes them the most anxious of the 3 Types, & the most out of touch with their own sense of inner knowing & confidence
Express fear by: waffling between inner & outer expressions. Being at the center of the triad, they’re plagued by doubt, not quite sure what they think about anything. They can neither trust themselves nor the outside world, but don’t actually experience it as ‘fear’, therefore their Janus-like quality
6s Deal with fear either by rebelling against authority or surrendering to it as a:
◆ Phobic – overly anxious, always on guard, suspicious of anything unfamiliar. Don’t believe in their own abilities, so look outside to handle their anxiety & dread for them
◆ Counter-phobic – repressing fear, pretending there’s absolutely no reason to ever feel scared. They surround themselves with security systems & ‘helpful’ people
Respond to their fear: by projecting several negative outcomes, &/or acting fearless as a way to cope with their ever-present insecurity
Alleviate fear: by organizing their tribe into strong groups, & presenting a unified front against “them”. They ask everyone else for answers they could solve themselves
► SEVENS – Enthusiasts
7s don’t expect things to work out very well, so they make sure to have multiple options, & as much as possible deliberately staying clear of any form of unpleasantness.
✦ To distract from hidden fears, they keep their minds occupied with exciting possibilities & options. Their main focus is on pleasure & getting what they want – with less concern for the needs or desires of others. They’re afraid of missing out, of not being connected to life.
✦ When they want help, they look to others indirectly, getting info from conversation & by activities. They rarely look inward for guidance or at their own patterns, so they tend to not learn from their mistakes
✦ Being a thinking type PLUS wanting to have pleasant feelings – gives them a strong visual mind, so they can live in daydreams. But they also make every effort to act on as many of their ideas as they can – staying on the go, pursuing one experience after another, keeping themselves amused
Root: 7s are deeply afraid of feeling the pain of their inner world – wanting to avoid further abandonment, deprivation & loss
Express the fear : by externalizing their fear, avoiding it entirely by distracting themselves – always being up, always having options (to run) & always planning new feel-good escapes
Deal with fear: they’re always fighting negativity, failure & boredom, so even their ‘commitments’ have backup plans – just in case. The need for constant stimulation can turn into an addiction to excitement
Respond to their fear: with positive thinking & taking on new challenges, losing themselves in exciting adventures, trying to satisfy every need
Alleviate fear: by consuming everything they can, & becoming so great that they’re bigger & stronger than those around them. They accumulate people, experiences & possessions to insulate themselves from anything unpleasant or painful.