MBTI – False Stereotypes of SFs


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CARTOONS from Personality Central

🧩 Each type is given a range of labels – but some fit better than others. And each has its share of annoying stereotypes. Some are legitimate, but most are entirely false

✥ ISFP – Painfully shy airheads, superficial & flakey

Reality: ISFPs lead with a process called Introverted Feeling (Fi), so they tend to hold their emotions close & their values closer. They’re easily affected by injustice & harsh words, & cry more easily than other types, much to their own dismay.  Psychologist Paul D. Tieger notes that ISFPs are “highly sensitive & loving… feeling everything personally & deeply.” This makes them passionate about the welfare of troubled & struggling people or animals, but can be misconstrued as weakness.

Highly observant & highly analytical – they’re even apt to confuse themselves with Intuitives. ISFPs are extremely introspective, & of all the Sensor types, may be the most intuitive & spiritual. Being observant of their surroundings & often very intelligent, they live so much in their head that others can easily miss how insightful they really are.
Though they may always seem to be off in la-la land, their mind is always reeling – constantly processing what’s going on around them & what it all means at deeper levels.

✥ ESFP – Shallow, self-absorbed party animals only interested in a good time

Reality: Called ‘The Entertainer’, ESFP enjoy making people laugh, with a natural enthusiasm & charisma that draws people in – but can make some people jealous of their charm & outgoing good-humor. While some ESFPs do really crave attention, many  see opportunities for fun & excitement everywhere, & don’t want anyone to miss out.
Just because they live in the moment doesn’t mean they miss what is going on around them. They can care very deeply for their loved ones, & will go to great lengths to make them happy.

Some ENFPs are actually on the quiet side, who’d rather be in the background. Most are incredibly emotionally intelligent – very aware of their own feelings, can dissect other people’s motives & desires with incredible accuracy, AND use that info effectively. They can pick up on things others may miss – because they’re missing the outside function of Perception (Ne).

ISFJ – Uptight, neurotic motherly type, desperate to grab a partner & have a family as fast as possible

Reality: ISFJs are very uncomfortable with uncertainty, so always want to know what to expect. They avoiding risks, keep their life in order, & are very protective of loved ones. This can make the average observer tell them to ‘loosen up & enjoy today”, which is not helpful.

Though ISFJs do tend to make excellent parents, they’re are not all eager to jump into a family, & many take their time to get there. Their first function is a perceptive one (Si), which means their feelings come second to their interests. Above all else they want to keep the peace while maintaining traditions. They want a warm environment, and are willing to bend to accomplish that

Because they aren’t dominant judgers (J-DOM), as a rule this type isn’t neurotic. On the contrary, they’re more often type B personalities – they’re more interested in harmony than getting exactly what they want.

✥ ESFJ – Shallow, petty gossip hounds, only caring about the latest dirt

Reality: ESFJs lead with extroverted feeling (Fe), usually warm & compassionate, they’re strongly driven by a desire to make others happy. Very sensitive to praise & criticism, they’re “anxious to conform to all legitimate expectations”.

Even though they do have values of their own, they look outside of themselves for matching feelings of morale & acceptance, & mirror the values of those around them. So they’re more likely to be a product of their environment than other types.
EXP: If education, analytical analysis or personal growth were highly valued in their upbringing, they would take on any of those values with a passion.

ESFJs are only as petty as the people around them – their natural first instinct is to be supportive & inclusive to a fault. They care about others, & very much want to please, actually making them one of the least shallow types.

REFERENCES:  infjedi, Heidi Priebe & Psychology Junkie  ➡️ (+ more links)

NEXT: Misjudged NTs – Part 2

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