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INSECURITY –  A more common term for lack of Emotional Safety 
DEF:  Result of all Insecure Attachment styles. Shows up as lack of confidence in oneself, creating fear and uncertainty, especially about one’s abilities, feeling inadequate in all areas of life.

1. BEHAVIORS of Emotionally Unsafe adults toward Self.  THEY :
♦︎ Are unaware of or ignore their own personal boundaries, leading to harmful or shameful interactions with others
♦︎  Are chronic procrastinators,  often late, poor planers, start but don’t finish tasks or projects
♦︎ Drive recklessly – resulting in injuries – ignore speed limits & traffic signals, talk on the cell, drive drunk
THEY
♦︎ Have emotional outburst, over-react to small frustrations
♦︎ Ignore health needs – regular checkups, yearly dentist visits,  not enough sleep, poor eating choices, wrong seasonal clothes….
♦︎  Neglect or ignore personal, family &/or work responsibilities
♦︎ Neglect safety gear in hazardous situations, like not wearing helmets or seatbelts, careless use of tools or safety goggles, masks….
THEY
♦︎ Self harm – cutting, banging head, hitting oneself in the face, suicide attempts …..
♦︎ Trust bullies, predators, narcissists, alcoholics….
♦︎ Take unnecessary risks in social situations – unable to use common sense – excessive drinking, drug use, unprotected sex
♦︎ Use substances irresponsibly, leading to impaired judgment & risky choices.

2. BEHAVIORS toward Others

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