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1. Emotional Don’ts – see 3 posts in Feb 2018

2. MENTAL Don’ts for Successful Mentally Healthy People – (MHP)

🔺MHP Don’t – resent other people’s success
Because they are comfortable with & proud of their own achievements, they appreciate & celebrate other people’s success in life.  They don’t feel jealous or cheated when others surpass them in recognition or financial rewards.
They stay in their own lane, pursuing their own goals – which may not be the same as those of other people – knowing they have the power to increase their own growth. Besides, they want to be surrounded by people who are also achieving their dreams, & can be their peers.

🔺MHP Don’t – put themself last
They understand that success is holistic, so for long-term success &  happiness,  their overall welfare must be a top priority – because they matter. We all go through times when we don’t get enough sleep or exercise, like when working on a big project or dealing with a major stressor, but MPH don’t use precious energy feeling guilty about all they ‘should have done’ over a 3- day weekend, or obsess about taking a break when they really need it. 

Since brains need rest too, to operate in peak form during work hours they make sure to rest & recharge in off time. “Me-time is not wasted time”. Self-care is made up of activities that give life meaning outside of work, while contributing to better performance at work. That’s why they’re just as committed to relaxation & wellness as they are to improving & enhancing career productivity.

🔺MHP Don’t – put work before family
Work is important, but not more than staying connected to loved ones. It keeps them grounded, & is key to living a healthy, prosperous life. Quality time with peers & those who wish the best for them – provides mental & emotional refreshment, making it easier to thrive & face work challenges.

This is as much about mental attitude & personal values as about the amount of time spent with them, which may not be as much as everyone would like. They don’t neglect their intimate relationships with the excuse “I did it all for you”, while staying away physically & emotionally. MHP are not afraid of closeness.

◆ALSO Don’t – betray family or friends
HMP know how to stick up for themself, & not get rolled over. But they deeply value their support system, so back them up in realistic, legitimate ways. After all, if their closest circle can’t trust them, why would anyone else?

🔺MHP Don’t – shy away from change
While not all changes are welcomed or beneficial, MHP will find ways to adjust their attitude & actions to manage stressful events. Although the unknown possibilities that come with change can cause anxiety, MHP survive & succeed because of their ability to adapt, rather than meeting it with resistance. 

At the same time, they look forward to the inevitability of new options & experiences in life, especially the positive unexpected ones, considering them an opportunity for creativity. A work environment filled with new technologies & trends represents forward movement, is energizing & brings out the best in people.

🔺MHP Don’t – speak negatively about themselves
The most important difference between those who succeed in life & those who don’t is how they talk about themselves. They know that discounting achievements & insinuating they can’t do something only serves to hurt their ability to reach their goals. So they don’t boast, yet (quietly) make their competence clear to everyone.

🔺MHP Don’t – stay uncertain or unclear
They know what they want in life – their talents, desires dreams & interests.  They set goals & know how to communicate those goals to others, being clear about their intentions & what actions they want to take – working hard to achieve them.

They’re the people who accomplish great things in life – set attainable, measurable, realistic, specific, time-driven (SMART) goals. It’s important to eliminate any that will set them up for failure, even if those may be long-cherished idealistic or ego-driven desires.

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