MBTI – False Stereotypes of NFs

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CARTOONS from Personality Central

INFP – Overly emotional snowflakes who can’t deal with facts or hard logic

Reality: INFPs are intensely imaginative & passionate, & definitely prefer emotion over logic. But they’re not as fragile as they seem, more than capable of getting things done when needed. While some can wander off into a world of imagination & they loose touch with their own realistic needs, healthy INFPs have a good balance between imagination & determination. They can fulfill ‘”pipe dream” when they believe in themselves.

They can be incredibly resourceful & organized, & will go to any lengths in pursuit of what they believe is right. As highly thoughtful types INFPs are quite focused, often mistype as Js. They have a strong sense of internal morals, & will stand up for their values. Being so clearly aware of their emotions makes them quite capable of handling them – unlike some types who favor logic & are often afraid of their feelings.

ENFP – Over-excitable social butterflies who never stop spewing out about their feelings

Reality: ENFPs’ are the quintessential “idea people”, their (Ne-Dom xx Te-Inf) making them much more comfortable posing questions & debating ideas than talking about their emotions. Although they’re extroverts, they’re actually very introspective, often needing more time alone than other Es, sometimes causing them to assume they’re introverts!

Even though they are in touch with their own emotions, more than anything they enjoy the ability to learn about, explore  & process new ideas & possibilities. Naturally adventurous & innovative, they don’t like doing things ‘by the book’, & may turn down a risk-free lifestyle in favor of new experiences & challenges. They need to follow their inspiration to have a fulfilled life.

INFJs can be consumed by an inner vision for their lives. Carl Jung said of their DOM- Ni, that it “moves from image to image, chasing after every possibility in the teeming womb of the unconscious”.
While their dreams & insight should not be stifled, they also need to use their AUX-Fe for balance, by engaging with the outer world

Stereotype #1 :  Psychic & therefore impossible to understand – the rare snowflakes wildly unlike any other type

Reality: Though they’re statistically the rarest type, they’re not the most creative or most individualistic (like INFPs are on both counts).
Since INFJs have (Fe) as AUX, they are very in tune with social norms, & value fitting in with a group over expressing their individuality. And, even though their Function Stack is uncommon, they’re not the misunderstood artists of the world (like INFPs or ISFPs).
INFJs also have powerful intuition, which helps them cmake assumptions about the future, but they’re not psychic. They ‘unconsciously’ collect facts, & then form predictions, which they can’t explain.

Stereotype #2: Natural counselors of the world who want nothing more than to care for & nurture others

Reality: They certainly do care for others, but INFJs can often come off as cold – if you don’t know them well. Although unique & rare, they’re very sensitive to other people’s emotions, which makes them easy to connect with if someone actually makes the effort.
They lead with (Ni- Dom), so they’re much more interested in analyzing big-picture problems than in helping others sort out relationship issues. While they can be empathetic to a fault, they’d rather be evaluating than sympathizing.

ENFJ – Overbearing, emotionally invasive, & never stops probing others about their feelings

Reality: ENFJs are known for their enthusiasm, empathy & outgoing nature (Fe-DOM). They crave harmony in their environment, wanting to make people happy, to feel welcome & understood.  Healthy ENFJs are usually generous with their time, good listeners, inspirational teachers & loyal friends. However, they can get so absorbed in the needs & emotions of others that they may lose sight of their own.

Extremely caring, they’re highly aware of how their actions affect others. But they’re also quite skilled at setting boundaries & respecting the privacy of others. If they push too far or ask highly personal questions, it’s not exploitation – it’s because they can sense something’s bothering you. If you try not to be defensive you may understand that you need their probing. They genuinely want to help resolve a problem & need more info from you in order to do so.

REFERENCES:  infjediHeidi Priebe & Psychology Junkie  ➡️ (+ more links)

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