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REALITY : All parents are flawed in some way, but some can still be good enough & safe enough to provide you with a secure start in life. But if ou had one or more parents or parent-subs who were Emotionally Unsafe, your mental wellbeing was damaged.  Growing up in an unsupportive, chronically stressful environment led to intense anxiety, depression & anger.

NOTE : Here are 2 lists. Part 1 is all about some of the ways our family was unsafe. Part 2, shows the effect on us as a result.
The * indicates that the examples are all written in the past tense, BUT for many of us, parents & other family members are still treating us the same way – even though we’re functional, intelligent adults, even quite accomplished !

INVENTORY : You’re not likely to identify with all, but you can use any one of these items to write about your experiences & accept the emotions it brings up.

SIGNS of Toxic Parenting : Mental abuse, physical abuse, harsh punishment, boasting “tough love”, gaslighting, & humiliation. Traits include being strict, critical, rigid, lacking emotional regulation, & insensitive toward others. (⬇️ LIST )
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