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1. Emotional Don’ts – 3 posts in Feb 2018

2. MENTAL Don’ts for Successful
(MHP) Mentally Healthy People  (cont)

🔺MHP Don’t – take everything soooo seriously
Being focused doesn’t mean you can’t ever be chill. Almost everything in your life could be taken a little less seriously. By all means, handle things that need to be handled, and treat significant issues with the appropriate level of concern—but you can also find ways to sprinkle in a little humor and perspective, even in the most serious moments.

There’s a time and place for serious conversations, but the truth is that in business, we choose to work with people who are not only proficient—they connect with us on an emotional level.”

🔺MHP Don’t – think about failure
They make peace with the past & don’t project disaster, using past failures to anticipate potential future disappointments. Since no one
can change past mistakes of the past, they prepared for success. If they do fail, they know they gave it their best shot, & continue working to succeed. They process past experiences to learn from it, but don’t obsess about it. They refuse to live in regret, & can let go of grudges

🔺MHP Don’t  – trust data without verification
They know they have to make sure to have their facts right. Impulsive decisions are based on emotions. The best one are based on verified, well-researched facts,  use multiple credible sources.

🔺MHP Don’t – try to change another person
As adults, they realize they can’t force others to be the kind of person the MHP would like them to be. They take time to see each person for who they are, & either accept (& enjoy) them as is, minimize contact or stay away.
In biz, by not bullying someone into doing something they’re asked to, the MHP gives the other freedom to choose, so they experience positive or negative consequences. This frees the MPH from unnecessary responsibility & stress.

🔺MHP Don’t – use “busy” as a measure of success
They know in order to come up with world-changing ideas and businesses, they must create time and space to think. Successful people aren’t necessarily wealthy … but they’re usually happy. Happiness defines their success more than money.

🔺MHP Don’t – underwhelm (limit possibilities)
They not only set a high bar for themselves, they consistently work to reach it & then move it incrementally higher. A good motto to live by is : “Don’t over-promise & then have to under-deliver, and don’t under-promise because of fear. Instead, realistically promise the best & deliver the best.”

🔺MHP Don’t – waste time on unproductive thoughts
They expend their mental energy wisely. No one can be, or should be, productive 100% of the time, or else they wouldn’t have time to rest, process & evaluate their actions & experiences.

Thousands of thoughts go through our mind every day, so it’s impossible to prevent negative thoughts from sneaking in. But mentally strong people are not consumed by them. They think productively, replacing harmful, self-defeating ideas with useful, realistic ones

Ironically, negative does not always = unproductive. In fact, “dark” thoughts often breed creativity. Some of the most moving pieces of art have been created in “negative” spaces. Letting negative thoughts consume you is different than thinking them and using them to produce something powerful

🔺MHP Don’t – wait for the Perfect time
 They go by the motto “Start before you feel ready”. When a major opportunity arrives, they’re going to feel overwhelming & daunting – that’s what makes it major! They don’t let self-doubt keep them from trying.

MHP power through the sense that they don’t have enough experience & can’t meet the challenge. No one ever does! but they use the talents & drive they already have to pursue their dreams. The rest they trust they can learn, & they do!

When they actually get started, excitement turns into energy, energy into action, action into something meaningful – & momentum steps in to lend a hand. 

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 Modified FROM : “8 Things Successful People Never Waste Time Doing”

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