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1. Emotional Don’ts – see 3 posts in 2/18

2. MENTAL Don’ts for Successful
(MHP) Mentally Healthy People  (cont)

🔺MHP Don’t – let fear stop them from saying Yes
They’re aware that pursuing their goals & being outstanding means having to take chances from time to time, but successful outcomes depend on taking the right kind.

They face & deal with the 3 basic fears which stop others – failure, rejection, & success itself. They don’t pass up chances for growth even when it feels uncomfortable, willing to take calculated risks that can open doors to new & amazing opportunities.

🔺MHP Don’t – say yes when they really mean No
They’re able to set boundaries on their time & efforts. Saying NO when necessary keeps them focused on the most important tasks that help reach their goals.

In fact, success is often based on what they decide not to do – so that precious time isn’t wasted. They don’t recklessly jump into anything that seems to be “too good to be true”, & don’t let emotions cloud their judgment. They weigh benefits vs. dangers, accurately calculating consequences for each side, making decisions that balance emotion with logic.

🔺MHP Don’t – say yes to everything
They are go-getters, even over-achievers by others’ standards. So naturally they want to raise their hand at every opportunity that presents itself for participation.

But successful people know they can’t do it all – over-committing is a sure way to fail, so is not part of their mind-set.
Being a person of their word is a must, & only commit to things they know they’ll be able to do – starting each say with only 5 things on their list. If they have time & energy for more – fine. They work on things that will move the needle, so they always get what they need done – done.

🔺MHP Don’t – lose sight of their goals
They never take their eyes off their visions & dreams, so they set Specific, Measurable, Attainable,  Realistic, Time-driven (SMART) goals, which provide long-term vision with short-term motivation.
Clear goals provide a standard to identify forward progress even during long hard grinds, allowing them to value their ability & competence, which strengthens self-confidence.

A Harvard study of students :  — 84% had no goals at all
— 13% had goals but not written down
Only 3% had written goals with plans outlined

FOLLOW UP on same students 10 years later:
The 13%-ers were earning twice that of the 84%-ers
The 3% were earning 10 times MORE than the other 97%.

🔺MHP Don’t – make rash decisions
They know the best decisions come with restraint – using logic instead of reacting in the emotional heat of the moment. They wait, see what happens, seek advice, then decide.  They don’t automatically or frantically rush to action. Some decisions do include urgency which have to be made quickly. Others need time to turn out well. And sometimes doing nothing at all is wisest.

🔺MHP Don’t – mismanage time
Successful people do not misuse or distort time , but rather treat it as their most valuable asset.  They know what they need to do each day to function well, & what others need to do for them to get things done.

🔺MHP Don’t – overthink things
 They rarely get stuck in ‘analysis paralysis’, because – they refuse to overthink things (obsess) not second guessing themself. Instead, they evaluate their options in the moment & take action whenever possible – as soon as possible. They know that their choices can’t always be ideal, but have confidence they’ll be okay no matter the outcome

🔺MHP Don’t – pretend to know everything
Successful people are not arrogant – knowing they’re successful, they aren’t jerks about it.  It doesn’t blind them to being aware of important information or seeing potential areas of improvement that will help them make better choices.
In business, info-arrogance limits creativity & options. Trusting that “I know what I know”, they’re not too proud to consult trusted advisors, unconsciously using the proverb, “In the abundance of counselors there is wisdom.”

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