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1. Emotional Don’ts – (Feb 2018)

2. MENTAL Don’ts for Successful (MHP) Mentally Healthy People  (cont)

🔺MHP don’t – go through the day without a plan
They have a purpose, with short & long-term goals. They’re laser-focused on things they want to accomplish on a particular day – unless an emergency gets in the way. Writing things down is helpful, but only works on the top 2 or 3 priorities, not a long list of things that no human can do. They know they have to break down large tasks into realistic steps, which makes it easier to get them done & crossed off the list.

 🌠  don’t – undervalue the need to plan
They start the day with a plan, or at the very least an outline – since real life sometimes get in the way. However, they don’t just go wherever the wind takes them every morning – they decide what they want to focus their energy on, & follow through as much as possible. When life sidetracks then they go back to the plan. Calendars & journals help to track their progress & keeps them from letting other people’s needs & plans constantly shove their own priorities on the back burner.

🔺MHP Don’t – gossip
They know there’s a difference between information & gossip, so they don’t repeat info they have about someone to others, realizing that another person’s private life is none of their business.
Instead of trying to knock others down to make themselves feel better, MHP focus on working towards the goals they’ve set for themself.
They choose to spend time on productive conversations that build up those around them – or keep silent. Rather than gossiping about people behind their backs, which is toxic, they’re respectful & keep to their boundaries.

🔺MHP Don’t – keep negative people around
 Studies have concluded that “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”, & happiness is directly related to the type of “PPT” (people, places & things) we choose to deal with on a regular basis.

Negative people tend to dampen – even poison – the atmosphere around them, acting like an anchor to progress. To stay on a growth path, MHP are able to develop & maintain a network of valuable & supportive family, friends & staff, surrounding themself with people who inspire as well as support.

🔺MHP Don’t – insist the world owes them
Even if they’re very knowledgable & can express their talents successfully, they don’t assume the world owes them. They enter the work-world prepared to succeed on their merits, at every stage of their career. Because life plans can be derailed at any moment – they don’t waste effort feeling “wronged by destiny” when things don’t exactly go their way.

They thrive on working long & hard for what they want, & enjoy their accomplishments. They believe in their right to happiness, but not a life free from obstacles or setbacks. They intentionally focus on what they have to offer, rather than what is ‘deserved’ . Even if they’ve been dealt an unfair hand in life, they use their gifts well, & gladly share them with others.

🔺MHP Don’t – let bad habits control them
They own their weaknesses (time-wasting activities, addictions….) & develop their private & public environments in such a way as to limit the ‘bad habits’ or eliminate the possibility of indulging them.  Minimizing self-defeating behaviors does not include eliminating normal & needed down-time or occasional healthy indulgence used as a break from hard work.

🔺MHP Don’t – let their skills atrophy
Just like with muscles, they know that professional skills need to be developed & improved in order to stay in good work-shape. They make sure to keep a balance – successfully incorporating daily use of their specialized knowledge, as well as moving ahead by feeding their minds with tools to grow & stretch in their field.

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