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✥ MARTYR
Martyrs are so busy taking care of others’ needs that they often neglect their own. Financially speaking, Martyrs generally do more for others than they do for themself – rescuing others (a child, spouse, friend, partner) from some circumstance or other.
However, they don’t give freely, wanting to be appreciated & loved as a payoff. This means they’re repeatedly let down when others don’t meet their expectations – not being mind readers. 

They live in a double bind between two opposite energies which is financially confusing to themself & others : one that wants to be in control & to control others <——> and the other to stay the wounded, often very needy, child.

Martyrs have formed an unconscious attachment to their own suffering. Like Victims, Martyrs often live in high drama, experience a lot of highs & lows, struggling with their attachment to negative experience. They see the glass as half empty instead of half full.   Their focus on the negative often keeps them from realizing the deep wisdom that lies within their experience

However, they don’t give freely, wanting to be appreciated & loved as a payoff. This means they’re repeatedly let down when others don’t meet their expectations – not being mindreaders.  which actually can make them quite capable of realizing their dreams  – because they put so much energy into needing to be right.l. 

Martyrs who are willing to do their own work to heal their woundedness have the capacity to become gifted & and powerful manifestor — money Magicians

✥ VICTIM
Victims are prone to living in the past & blaming their financial woes on external factors. Passive-aggressive style (acting out their angry feelings in passive ways rather than through direct action) they often appear disguised as Innocents, because they seem so powerless & appear to want others to take care of them.
However, this attitude is often either a conscious or subconscious ploy to get others to do for them what they refuse to do for themselves. Victims generally have a litany of excuses for why they’re not more successful, all based on their historical mythology.

That is not to say that bad things haven’t actually happened to the Victim. More often than not, they have been abused, betrayed, or have suffered some great loss. The problem is that they have never faced & processed their pain, so it’s turned on them. Victims are always looking for someone to rescue them, because they believe they have suffered enough. They carry a sense of entitlement: “I paid my dues, look at my battle scars, when do I get a payoff for all my suffering”?

✥ ** FITBIT Checker
They constantly look at their online bank balance & track spending  – as often as someone training for an extreme sporting event , including their calorie intake, resting heart rate & sleep quality.

They obsess over credit card points, probably like to use comparison sites & download apps that track their budget or remind them when to re-mortgage. Fitbit Checkers want/ need control who find it hard to deal with the unpredictability of life can become super-organized about money.

 Prof Beattie: “Some people get very emotionally attached to this behavior. They think they’ve gained intimate knowledge that their neighbor doesn’t have. Having ‘solved’ the mysteries of the financial universe, they can  share it & will be admired.”

Ms Hammond has found some people with an obsession with their money have corresponding eating disorders. Both behaviors can stem from a similar belief – that taking control of something tangible like money or food can substitute for meaningful control of one’s life.
The real trigger could be anxiety about bigger personal changes, such as a major loss, fear of being fired, or children leaving the nest. Some just find it hard to deal with the unpredictability of life, & want to control any aspect they can.”
** Fitbit = a wearable device that tracks your activity & fitness.

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