SITE “12 Types of Liars 

 

STUDIES: Children learn to lie around age 3, and researchers believe it’s part of normal human brain development. Lying requires learning to see things from other people’s perspectives, developing what psychologists call “theory of mind.” Learning to tell an effective lie means getting into the other person’s head in order to tell them what they want to hear.

EXP : In games like poker, being a skillful liar can help you win. In politics, knowing how and when to lie can be an advantage.🏳️ To develop safety in the world and self-esteem with integrity, understanding lies & liars can help us avoid getting duped, as well as protect us from drifting into dishonesty ourself.

CATEGORIES :  We can classifying lies: BY the —
— consequences of the lies
— importance of their subject matters
— speakers’ motives
— nature or context of the statement

AUDIENCE : Someone can lie to 2 kinds of audiences –
— to other people or to themself
TOPIC : You can lie about 2 different categories of things
— facts (or what they believe to be facts) and their value, which are the attributes of the person you want to become.

PEOPLE : And the most useful grouping is BY the most basic types of people who tell them.
🏴 DECEITFUL : Habitual liars get labeled as untrustworthy and earn a bad reputation that often precedes them, especially in our hyperconnected age. Whether it’s checking out someone to date or do business with, our online profiles and social connections increasingly help people keep tabs on our character.

However -for the most part- we outgrow telling childish lies for purely personal gain, but still tell white lies as adults to maintain social relationships. Imagine what would happen if you responded instead, “Well, the world is falling apart, I’m starting to question the purpose of my existence, and I’m feeling bloated from the kale salad I ate. But how about you?”

White lies aside, lying to others about facts for personal gain is corrosive to relationships and, if it’s a consistent pattern of behavior, can shut us out of people’s lives (and sometimes society in general).

🏁 DELUSIONAL :  We also lie to ourselves. You might tell yourself that your curt response to someone wasn’t insensitive, or that you didn’t take more than your fair share of dessert, or that you contributed more to the team project than you did.

We constantly lie to ourselves and there’s reason to think that healthy psychological functioning involves some level of self-deception. However, not all self-deception is created equal.

There’s a difference between the commonplace lying that mentally healthy people engage in and the kind of self-deception that marks mental illnesses like schizophrenia or manic depression. There’s also a difference between certain types of self-deception and lies that erode our integrity…….

🇿🇲 DEMORALIZED : those who lie to themself about their values – for many of the same reasons they deceive themselves about facts. Among other things, they want to see themselves as more diligent, honest, or trustworthy than they really are. They say they are committed to working hard, telling the truth, or keeping promises, but their actions say otherwise.

The pitfalls of lying about values are similar to those of lying about facts, but there is an added snare—lying to ourselves about values compromises our integrity.

 🚩 DUPLICITOUS : People can lie about their values as well as about facts. They say they’re committed to being someone or to doing something, but their actions prove otherwise.

NEXT : Types of LIARS (Part 2a)