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QUOTE:  “Love does not need to be understood, just to be demonstrated” ~ Paulo Coelho

⬆️ Art work on Pictame: by Karina Sep from Poland.
Translation, from top left to top right: Embrace Change – old state, decision to change, jump head first, chaos & confusion, defense against change, depression, I embrace it, second breath, new me, joy at the top, new life.

❤️ We can use this model ✒︎ to teach our WIC how to deal with difficult or unpleasant Es:
⚬ JUMP In! = Recognize & acknowledge them
⚬ STAND Strong! = Own them & Survive
⚬ RISE Up! = Grow from them & Thrive .….(explanations)

REQUIREMENTS for Emotional Resilience (E>R>)
• Acceptance : In touch with your needs – what’s good for you & what’s bad for you, what’s lacking or OK things that simply don’t suit – and when it’s time to reach out for some extra help

• Awareness: Learned to identify what Es you’re experiencing, either at the time or soon after

• Capacity : Know you have a wide range of Es, that you can have more than one E at a time, & that they can sometimes be contradictory

• Courage : Willing to risk facing your Es, in spite of being afraid of the pain. It will help to have the right external support

• Focus : Notice & keep a connection to pleasant, positive Es, balancing them against the unpleasant ones

• Motivation : (internal locus of control) Know in your cells that you have the right to be in charge of your own life – as an adult – & are not pushed around by outside forces. So you have choices, in most situations

• Permission : Have come to believe you have a right to all your Es, because they are our built-in early warning system of danger, AND a great source of comfort & pleasure

• Responsibility : As adults – Know that your Es come from inside, rather than being caused by external People, Places or Things (PPT)

• Self-esteem : Have a clear sense of your True Self, & are comfortable with all your qualities & characteristics, even those you want to improve or enhance. You know you are a basic source of feeling loved

SKILLS for E>R>
• Attention : Keep an eye out for things that recharge your batteries & fill your cup, so you’ll have the reserves needed for hard times

• Balance: Find & retreat to your personal sweet spot of peacefulness when needed, & be present in the moment without judgment (mindfulness)

• Body info: Able to locate & experience physical sensations in your body that go with current Es, good at catching even subtle cues (clutch in the heart, Ick factor in the stomach, tingling nerves from fear ….)

• Boundaries : Know what your Es are, & don’t take on the Es of other people in your environment, no matter how much you love or care about them

• Connections : Understand, accept, & empathize with other people’s feelings more easily because of being in touch with your own inner life  (without absorbing theirs !). Can pick up social / emotional signals from others
• Control : Able to regulate your E responses, considering the situations you’re in

• Faith : in a Power greater than yourself Who can & will help get you thru painful events
• Feel : Able to sit with Es instead of using distractions – but not necessarily alone

• Gratitude : Identify & value your personality assets & accomplishment, as well as the good PPTs -people, places & things in your life – who help put great pain or small annoyances in proper emotional proportion & perspective

• Reality: Separate who you are at your core from any situation or person that’s causing you temporary suffering

• Support: Gravitate to healthy people who are happy to share your joys with you, as well as give you the space to grieve or work through other painful Es

• Time: Understand & accept that all emotional wounds take time to heal – just like physical injuries (process). And that some – like deep abandonment pain – may never completely go away, but can be greatly reduced

• Triggers: Identify, accept & work on the things that set you off the most (like being accused wrongly) – buttons installed by your family

• Trust : Know you don’t have to push to figure everything out. Rather – allow time for your natural internal process & intuition to find solutions to difficult Qs in the face of traumatic events.

NEXT: Resilience – Spirituality