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⚜️ Type 4 ENTHUSIASM – YOU CAN :
• acknowledge that even frivolous things can be fun to experience
• believe you can get your needs met – by the right people
• let yourself uncover your real emotions, not just the ones that instantly surface or are over-the-top when the situations doesn’t warrant it (EXP : no house fire, no parental death…. )
• look for all the simple joys in the world & have fun. Not everything has to be serious or ‘deep’
• realize that not every moment lasts forever, since everything is impermanent, so there’s space for new or even better things
• take time to relax every day, every hour, & shed your constant anxiety

⚜️ Type 4 FLEXIBILITY  – Recognize that your unique ideas are just as amazing as other people’s. Admit & accept that you are not unique – not more special than other Ennea-Types, but very similar to other 4s.
Self-Statement: I really created that! “This is Me” (song) Wow!

⚜️ Type 4  GENEROSITY of Spirit – You can be very supportive, empathetic & generous, which is usually emotion-based. But“generosity of emotion” is not the same thing. Generosity of spirit” has to also include generosity of mind & action.
Watch out for your ego-based need to feel connected by sharing deep feelings. A true act of the spirit is being totally there for another person, by setting your own distress aside for the moment.

⚜️ Type 4 GRATITUDE – Obvious idea: Spend just as much time thinking about what’s already available in your life , as with what’s missing. Appreciate what’s right in front of you.
Not-obvious idea: Make a list of what you have to offer as a person – then shorten it to 3 items. Draw a picture, create a song, write a poem, or take a pic that represents each item. Then put them someplace special in your home or work – to look at them every day.

⚜️ Type 4 INVOLVEMENT – You  can get passionately, intensely involved with activities that fit your values, or with people you feel deeply connected to . But ASK :
* Do I know the difference between intensity/passion and involvement? Is it possible I get overly-involved?
* Can I get fully involved if I don’t relate completely relate to all parts of a situation, don’t feel listened to or understood?
* Can I focus just as much on the hopes & drams of others as on my own needs & drives?

⚜️ Type 4  MOTIVATION – Hang on to your inner motivation even when ——> you feel someone is demeaning or rejecting you, when you have to do what you consider to be a mundane or boring task, or when you’re are stressed & upset with someone or something

⚜️ Type 4 PERSPECTIVE –  Too close lenses : don’t get so up-close & personal, paying too much attention every nuance of the other person & your emotional responses, that you can’t be objective about the whole person & how they fit to don’t fit with you.
Remedy: Use a refined zoom lens that allows for range flexibility & a conscious compass to know when to use it!

⚜️ Type 4 PROSPERITY – Move from waiting for prosperity to engaging in prosperity-based action.
Believe you really can & will get needs & desires met. This happens as you let more positivity into your life, along with limiting negative self-talk & other false beliefs.

⚜️ Type 4 RESPONSIBILITY – Being complicated , you’re both over-&-under-responsive to yourself and to others. For you – ‘over’ means too focused on you immediate feelings, but ‘under’ is not knowing for sure what your deepest emotions are. About others – too easily taking an ambiguous response as a slight, or someone’s negative comment taken personally. On the other hand – you don’t absorb or don’t even hear a compliment or expression of gratitude from others.

⚜️ Type 4 SPONTANEITY – You think you’re spontaneous by being in-touch with feelings & desires, trying to follow as inner vision & daring to be different. You tend to live in the past or an idealized future.  These do not represent spontaneity – being in the moment.  ‘Immediate responsiveness’ require being in the present, accessing your truest level of awareness in the Now. The most important step is paying attention to your breathing & checking what you’re experiencing. Then find what feels good in the ordinary & mundane.

⚜️ Type 4 VISION – Explore & trust what you believe about manifest your vision into reality. Find the words that communicate this possibility to others, & don’t get deterred if they don’t understand. Absorb constructive feedback as ideas & useful information – not criticisms – & then digest it. Enjoy when others do get it & support your vision.  Remember : you are not your vision, rather a person with a vision. This helps to not take suggestions or critiques personally.

⚜️ Type 4 WILLINGNESS – Be willing to hear & absorb compliments from others, rather than discarding them as if they hadn’t been said. Be willing to find every-day things – where you can make a difference – instead of dismissing them as not important. Allow yourself spontaneous acts of small kindnesses, rather than expecting everything you do to be deep & purposeful.

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