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REAL vs FAKE – #1

SITEs:
▪︎  The Science Of Smiles, Real & Fake

 

GP = Genuine Person
FP = Fake Person

 

✦ PRIVATE 
GPs are comfortable in their own company. Being alone is needed for self-reflection, & they know everyone benefits from down-time to process & recharge. This is not isolation, but rather a comfort zone, whether occasionally enjoying some solitude at home or going places unaccompanied. “Healthy” others will understand & respect this need, & some maybe even learn to do the same for themselves.
PS: Introverts need this more often than Extroverts.

vs. PUBLIC
Regardless of their MBTI type, many FPs don’t like to be on their own for too long,  surrounding themselves with lots of events, groups & acquaintances. Not everyone will see their true colors & so will fall for their manipulations, thinking they’re ‘great’.

Some will do whatever it takes to stay center-stage, showing off, constantly talking, or playing victim to get sympathy by talking about their misfortunes, even throwing a ‘tantrum’.

✦ PRIVATELY HELPFUL
GPs ALSO don’t need to brag or go out of their way to get recognition – for doing something good for another person or group (professional help or as a favor). But it’s more important to them to do a good job & that others are encouraged & helped.

vs. HELPING for RECOGNITION 
FPs think they’re vital to other people’ lives (no-one can do without them!). They try to live up to others’ expectations, always wanting to be (or seem like) the ‘good guy / gal’, trying to please everyone.
They’ll rush in to be helpful – even when someone doesn’t need it or didn’t ask, then tell everyone about it so they can feel important. At work – they want to look like the boss’s favorite, but others can usually tell they’re not sincere.

✦ HUMBLE
GPs don’t need to brag. While it’s natural & healthy to be proud of one’s achievements, & to share them with others, GPs know it’s not imperative. They have enough self-esteem to be modest – but not self-facing (false humility). They can easily talk about their own positive experiences & abilities – or not.

vs. ARROGANT
FPs are generally more materialistic & self-gratifying. They have a hard time empathizing with others, only interested in promoting their own agenda.
Because they need to be the center of attention, they’re constantly bragging about their assets & achievements, talking up even their smallest action to get admiration & praise. They often embellish stories or outright lie, & tend to tell the same story over & over

✦ RELIABLE
GPs are not afraid to take responsibility for their life, without having to be perfect. They always make an effort to keep their commitments, & if they can’t for any reason, they admit it with a sincere apology. They don’t need to make excuses, & while sometimes a non-whiney explanation is appropriate, at other times none is required.

However, what really makes the difference is that GPs takes time to consider if they can realistically follow-thru on something, so don’t make promises easily or often, & never just to people-please.

vs. UNDEPENDABLE
FPs are not great at taking personal responsibility – for any of their T.E.A.s. They can talk a big game, agreeing to or offering to do things, but rarely follow through. They’re the ones who make plans with you, but often cancel – & usually at the last minute. They carelessly make promises, wanting to feel important without having to earn it.

When called out, they come up with a list of excuses, even recycling the same old ones. They may be people-pleasers, afraid to say no, don’t think they’re in control of their own destiny, or they feel entitle & basically are inconsiderate.

✦ LISTENING
GPs are careful, attentive listeners, noticing what someone is saying about themselves, without the GP having to give advice or insist on their opinion. IF asked, they offer their experience, options & suggestions, without having to ‘be right’.

vs. PRETEND to LISTEN
FP will either talk over others, interrupt, insist on giving advice (only their point of view), or only listen if there’s something juicy for them to pass along (gossip’).

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