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◆ Communication Tips for each Type
Be more aware of your body language & the message you communicate through non-verbal behavior. Don’t become your own worst critic or call attention to mistakes. Avoid using to many details. Show warmth & have some fun.
Keep a clearer boundary between you & the other person, express your ideas more directly.
Don’t obsess about people’s feedback & don’t overextend yourself to ‘be understood. Realize that others might not respond the way you’d like.
Listen to others longer so that they feel heard, express yourself in a more completely genuine (honest) way. Don’t oversell yourself or let your drive to be the best make you unapproachable. It can come off as cocky. Consider your audience, not the acclaim you might receive.
Balance emotion with logic. De-intensify your need for deep connectivity with everyone, reduce self-referencing words & stories. Don’t get lost in the big picture – provide details so your creative ideas make sense.
Ask more questions, share more personal information & worry less about intruding on others. Don’t present lots of heavy facts in a row, & put some lightness in your communication – don’t be afraid to tell stories.
Question others’ motives less, breathe before your react too quickly, trust your own insights more. Don’t focus too much on feedback you hear as negative. Focus on who you’re talking to rather than your own anxiety.
Listen until others have completely finished what they’re saying, tell fewer stories, ask more questions. Make sure you include solid info along with being amusing. Don’t sugarcoat difficult or uncomfortable topics
Be flexible and adaptable. Soften your language & delivery when talking about difficult / painful topics. Listen even to people you don’t respect, explain your thinking & instinctual reactions more fully. Consider other points of view.
Share your own thoughts & feelings sooner, recognize that saying uh huh indicates agreement, even if that’s not what you intended. Remember that your opinion & presence matters, so stick to your own ideas, without getting stuck on too many details – edit yourself.
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Ennea-WORDS to NOT use in Business
Compliant, Withdrawn, Dutiful are terms thrown around in business settings by inexperienced Enneagram users to explain certain Types or groups of Types.
Although these categories may be somewhat useful to people learning the Enneagram for their own personal development, they’re inaccurate & can be damaging when used in organizations.
In business these terms have a different spin than in ‘ennea-speak’. Companies that are trying to evaluate potential leaders would reject certain Types that seem to fit these terms.
No matter how well an H-R person explained the Ennea-based meanings, most people would still make a negative mental translation.
• Compliant means being passive, easily pliable, accommodating
• Withdrawn means remote, contracted, not engaged
• Dutiful means docile, meek, submissive, subservient.
Who would want employees like this, much less as a leader? (More…)
Healthy–Unhealthy / Evolved–Unevolved / Developed–Undeveloped
This is another set of Enneagram terms that can cause problems in organizations. Too many leaders focus on judgmental words for Types
rather than the psychological & spiritual growth the Enneagram is actually about
◆ Enneagram professionals in the workplace need to made it clear that people of the same EnneaType can be very different from each other, based on their Wing, how they use their Arrows, & their level of personal development or self-mastery. The focus should be on helping workers develop their hopes & goals, not just using Type as a label.
◆ When people become more psychologically & spiritually mature they’re much more accepting & discerning, less critical & judgmental.
√ Judgment is forming an opinion or an evaluation in which two things are compared & one of those two is considered better
√ Discernment is sensitivity to nuance, insight, perceptiveness – which can lead to wisdom. Looking at a person’s Level of Development & self-mastery is being discerning. Harsh & judgmental terms are not.
Naturally this applies to individuals (us) as well as businesses.
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