Satir’s COMPUTER Role


isolation 

I’M SAFE IN MY IVORY TOWER –
so you can’t touch me

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3. COMPUTERS
(Twisted form of Intellect)
STYLE: About 15% of the population uses this defense
✶ At first glance they may seem poised & self-assured, but do not mistake them for someone who is centered, grounded & calm. If they were, they would radiate presence, warmth, & compassion. Instead, Computers make others feel cold & alone – put off, not understood

• always very correct, very reasonable, very logical & in control – called Mr Cool or Star Trek’s Mr Spock by NPL-ers.
• focus on & prefer context, removing the human element
• don’t show emotions, like machines, are detached, talk in a monotone or with a dry delivery
• never let anyone know what they think or are up to, never commit to a definite position, afraid to make a mistake or not know something

• often make value judgments without indicating whose opinion it is, implying that = naturally everyone would agree
• always thinking or evaluating, holding back, reserved, self-protectivecomputr type
• deflect any responsibility, always dissociated from what’s  going on around them, deny the value of everything except ‘facts’ & logical decisions

• continually in teaching  mode OR withdrawn in contemplation
• can sound like a dictionary, need to use the ‘right’ words as buffers to hide inner feelings:
generalize, omit/ delete parts of a thought, use long abstract words, speak in the 3rd person (“Someone needs to do it”)….. especially when questioned or confronted

• unfortunately considered an ideal for men, who are discouraged to experience & express emotions, so Computers work hard to appear super-cool on the outside, even if they’re churning like mad on the inside.
Good for accountants & bureaucrats

Energetic Description (from Dr.MJ Bulbrook)
• block out others & the context they’re in by creating rigid boundaries.  Spiritually unavailable, or undeveloped with holes
Potential harm to receiver: the shielding energy of the Computer is so strong it likely impossible to have an even exchange of energy. Another’s opinion is not heard or over- ridden without considering their input

Statements: “I am ultra-reasonable, calm, cool & collected. I have all the answers ,  Rational thinking is superior to emotion , Say the right words, with no feeling, don’t react , Perhaps we should take a moment to step back & review the situation”

Stance: They use auditory digital cues (‘analytical disconnected language’)
• talk to themselves, learn things by making sense of them, experience tension in neck and shoulders, can take on characteristics of other Roles
computer brain • body square on or maybe tilted back a little, resting on rear leg
• head level, eyebrows slightly pulled in, arms crossed under chin to prop head up (like the‘Thinker’)
• sit rigidly, not moving a muscle – pushing away feelings & people
• physically isolating themselves from any issue

Gain Power: by pretending to know it all & making the audience seem dumb.  Similar to Blamers, since they both stress their superiority over others
Aim: to provoke envy so others will ally with them, and to be seen as strong (hide feeling weak)

Reacting to a Computer: (via NLP) if you use a Blamer or Placating stance, they will switch to Blamer or Placater. Then you can recalibrate. The Distracter stance usually makes them worse

Reality: Computers feel exposed when showing emotions, maybe because they have  a hard time controlling them. They were probably shamed, blamed or emotionally overwhelmed as kids for having feelings
• When stressed, Computers desperately try to feel secure by intellectualizing everything, to stop from falling apart in case a real emotion ever broke through

Negative: • bore people to numbness by pontificating know-it-all
& using abstract language
• assumed to be cold-hearted & insensitive
• in close relationships, can’t connect emotionally, can’t give love or provide other personal needs – causing many problems & ending up isolated
• male Computers frustrate any attempt women make to communication emotionally, & just can’t understand why “she’s getting so upset when I’m being so reasonable!”

Positive: A good person to go to when needing specific, detailed info on an topic (research, medical, school work, travel…), anything not emotion-related

NEXT: ‘Controlling’ & Abandonment

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